Parents

Is there a specific reason as to why they would be upset?

Why would they be upset?

Why do they care about the date?

It seems strange to me that they would be upset if you move up your wedding date. It is your wedding so you should be able to choose when to have it.

Is it because they think you are too young? I know you mentioned that in another post.

Are they financially contributing to your wedding? If so then the money comes with strings and you might have to follow their timeline. If not then you can choose whatever date you want.

I would listen to their concerns and try to calm their nerves before making a decision. What's the rush?

You mentioned before that you are on a budget. Would pushing up your date negatively impact your budget?

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Make sure you consider all of this! These are great points!

They would most likely be upset because we are young. They wanted us to be out of college first, which I understand. But as bad as it sounds there’s a partial financial reason to it. My mother just sold her home and it’s going to reflect into my college financial aid. Instead of getting all the debt we thought we’d move up the date.

View Quoted Comment Are you able to support yourself without your parents help? That to be would be a huge determining factor as to whether you should be getting married. Also, if your husband works his money will be taken into consideration for your financial aid and vice versa.

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This! I would speak to a financial adviser or financial aid counselor at your school before you make a decision. They would know more about how your mom selling her house will effect you versus if you get married and have to take your husbands situation into account. In all unless you get married in the next 16 days you will have to deal with your current situation. Financial aid takes last years taxes in to account.

I second talking to a financial counselor at your school. Your mom's home sale won't be reflected on her tax return unless her gain on the sale is over $250k ($500k if she's married). I'm assuming she'll get some money in her bank account that may be reflected on FAFSA though. If she turns around and buys a new home immediately, that would mitigate the issue here.


As PP mentioned, any income/assets from your spouse will be counted on your FAFSA. Additionally, it gives you less time to save for a wedding if you move up the ceremony. Don't forget to have enough extra savings reserved for any unexpected non-wedding things like your car dying and needing to be replaced etc.
Best of luck whatever you end up deciding! Dont let the parents' emotions sway things too much - it may just take sitting them down and showing them you have a well thought out plan for supporting yourselves.