Parents want us to delay honeymoon

Sorry I meant delay honeymoon

We went on our honeymoon soon after the wedding. Our wedding was on a Saturday evening and we left for our honeymoon the following Monday morning. Honestly, by Sunday afternoon, we were so over being around literally anyone and could not wait until we were alone on our honeymoon. People delay their honeymoons, but usually because they want to save up more or can't take off work or something. You can spend time with your parents any time. The time after the wedding is for the couple.

View Quoted Comment I totally agree!! Especially after 5 days of entertaining everyone

Leave when you want to. Not when others pressure you to. It's common to leave within a couple days at most. Your parents will be there when you return

We didn’t officially honeymoon because of covid... but we ignored the world for a few days. We’re going to do the same before the reception this year because we want to decompress from work before the fun.
I vote honeymoon right away- you’ll want the breathing room.

I would leave as planned! 🙆🏻‍♀️

You’re getting married. So from here on out, decisions are made between you and your FH. That might be hard for parents to understand and let go of whatever authority they had up until that time. But it’s best you start setting healthy boundaries now because it will be harder later. Simply inform to your parents that you’re already scheduled to leave after the wedding and you’re going to keep those plans.

View Quoted Comment I agree with this 100%

Take your honeymoon! There is nothing like going off to be with your husband after just saying I Do. I feel delaying removes some of those feelings. I think even a week after wouldn’t feel the same. And I 100% would not be spending time after getting married with parents/in-laws. Don’t feel bad saying no, especially since you and FH have already agreed on a plan.

View Quoted Comment Yep already trying to have these discussions with my SO

We left the morning after our wedding and it was awesome! Once we got to our hotel, we only saw my sister because she drove us to the airport. I've never heard of staying with IL's being traditional or anything (although my MIL probably would have LOOOOVED that, glad she's not on here to get ideas, lol)

Leave when you want to.

This is laughable. Good lord they are going to have to adjust to their son having his own life, this sounds like they are clinging to his legs as he’s running out the door.
Go have a honeymoon!!!

You should also make sure to consider how exhausted you both will be after your wedding weekend and entertaining friends & family from Thursday-Sunday!!

We had a late afternoon flight the day after our wedding and we were both SO wiped out that I think we spoke less than twenty words that day! Seriously, we both needed two days of silence and sleeping to recover!!

It is up to you and your future spouse.

We are getting married on a Friday and leaving for our honeymoon the following Sunday. You deserve to have some relaxation time after all of the stresses of your wedding and if you want to leave, leave! I've never heard of it being customary to be around the week after, usually people will go on their honeymoons right after if they can.

I understand them wanting to spend time with you, but this is you and your FH’s time to unwind and celebrate. I’ve never heard of that custom before and I think it’s pretty set that most couples go to their honeymoon a day or two after getting married if they have the opportunity to. I would say just go on your honeymoon as planned. I think it’s a little unfair that they expect you to switch around your planned dates to spend a week with them instead of getting the time to just be with each other after being around so many people all weekend. Maybe just try to see if you can visit them some time shortly after your honeymoon, even if it’s just for a long weekend, and I’m sure that would make them happy

Honeymoons are overrated!! Costs a ton of money and just becomes a distant memory (thank goodness for photos, to remind us of what we did). Take the time to unwind with family. Your lucky to have them after this year with covid-19. I wish mine were here.. but until they invent a hotline to heaven... il just be talking to myself. Get it?

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I'm sorry to hear that you had a disappointing honeymoon. I don't really think that "spend time with YOUR family because I miss MINE" is useful advice here. Everyone makes decisions every day about who to spend their time with. A newly married couple who just spent 4 to 5 days with their families shouldn't feel shame for wanting to go on vacation just the two of them.

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This is such good advice. It doesn't even matter if it is common (it's not!). If it's not what you and your spouse want to do, then just make your decision and move forward with your planning. Practice changing the subject every time your parents bring it up.

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Oh my goodness, I love your responses! Not just to this post, either. I've seen quite a few and I just love how refreshingly honest you are.