Parents Stile my honeymoon

I literally have no idea why this is upsetting...

I don’t understand what she “stole”. Did she cancel your honeymoon or something? I think you skipped a piece of the story.

Unless she took your husband away for a romantic vacation, your honeymoon was not stolen. So she used your vacation idea. You should think of it as you chose a great place to honeymoon, and now you have someone who can give you an accurate review of the place since it’s new.

You will still experience joy on your honeymoon. Your wedding is soon, maybe you are overreacting due to wedding stress. Even if we agree and say your mom stole your idea, your experience will be totally different. Is it annoying, probably. But as a PP stated you have an accurate review of what to expect. Don't worry about it I am sure you will still have a nice honeymoon.

Don't let this stress you. She didn't steal your wedding or wedding date. It's a vacation spot that many people go to. You and your fh can still enjoy the place. If it's that upsetting then choose a new place.

I get that you wanted to go someplace and have something “brand new”- but don’t let them going ruin the Honeymoon you and your FH have planned.


This sounds like there is way more going on than one trip being “stolen”. Has your mom, or dad?, done this, a lot, before??

To me this sounds like a much larger issue and it is presenting itself this way. Maybe stressed too much over wedding planning, it getting nearer?
I’m sorry you feel this way- but it doesn’t seem like it should upset you this much.

She didn't steal anything. She went to a place many other people have also gone to. Why on earth do you believe she shouldn't be able to enjoy something you also plan to enjoy??

I can understand why you might be upset if you wanted to have a unique first time experience, but the fact that someone you know had the same experience shouldn't take away from it being your honeymoon. You are not going to have a honeymoon that no other person on earth has ever experienced before, even if you pick a newer destination or new activities. Your parents didn't "steal" your honeymoon just because they went to the same resort at a different time and paid their own way, especially if the intention was to scope out the place so they could give you a really awesome gift. I think it's fine that you are a little upset, but you need to change your mindset about your honeymoon being ruined.

...seriously? Nothing was stolen from you.

You did know, didn't you, that you weren't going to be the first person to stay there, right?

"...she told me they went there to check out the spa services so she would know what service to gift us during our honeymoon." That is such a sweet idea. I would be looking forward to those gifted spa services.

No offense, but this seems dramatic. Especially since she is offering to gift you something for your honeymoon. Tons of people stay at hotels...you can't really claim a hotel & city as your specific honeymoon and not let friends & family go there? We encouraged loved ones to go on our Hawaii honeymoon, we wanted everyone to enjoy it. My husband's dad & stepmom had already stayed at the hotel we stayed at in Maui and my parents had stayed at one of the hotels in Oahu....

Wow, calm down. Your parents did nothing wrong - who cares if they stayed there and then you do later. It affects your honeymoon in no way.

I know it makes no sense but I would feel the EXACT same way...