Parents Refuse to Wear Masks at Wedding

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People wearing masks below their noes bothers me too! You might as well not be wearing one.

View Quoted Comment I know!!!!!! 🤯 haha

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Thank you so much for sharing your perspective. I totally understand wanting people to not wear masks at your wedding; we opted for having the wedding with masks/distancing/cleaning precautions because we're not willing to wait longer to get married. If we postponed, we'd be postponing the big party but still have a small ceremony this year.

I like your idea of talking to his parents about the specific situations where we think wearing masks is important, and let them choose not to wear masks at other times. It's worth considering.

View Quoted Comment So, someone I know said they wear a mask for other's people's comfort. Maybe if you use the above suggestion with this explanation you can find a happy medium with them. I hope this all works out. It will take some compromises, but I'm sure they want to be there.

You aren’t the only one.
My cousin was supposed to get married June 20th and postponed to August 8th. We found out that his bride’s entire family was refusing to wear masks and they were going to take them to dinner afterwards but not include our family. It was very stressful because my uncle (cousin’s dad) is extremely susceptible due to a variety of conditions.
They ended up canceling their August 8th wedding about two weeks ago because their venue still wasn’t open.
If it were me, I’d flat out say “no mask, no entry”I’d even have extra masks in case someone “forgot” theirs. Put someone in charge of mask checks. If you wanted to be more polite than me, you could say something along the lines of “in an effort to protect all our guests, we are requiring face masks be worn during the ceremony and reception when you are not eating/drinking. We understand that this is not the most comfortable way to participate in our day but we love all of you and want to keep you safe.”

Tell them you will give them a framed portrait of you and their son, 2 months after the wedding or whenever they come in. Have your wedding, with as much safety as possible for all your friends. If this is their general attitude, they likely have been exposing themselves more, and are a significant risk to others. If you get coronavirus, have a nasty bout but get back on your feet in 4-5 weeks, even just one of you, with health insurance, could easily run to $10,000 to $30,000 copayments and some things not fully covered, and lost wages. Nice way to start a marriage. They are willing to risk this, an average case not a death, for their own son. One day you may have a child in intensive care, a newborn, or one with a burn or post surgical. If they flouted regs and walked right in without masks or suiting up, everyone would go nuts. Germs have no politics. You might as well let them know now, whatever choices they make for themselves, from here on in, you are each other's family, and you will protect each other and any guests, and any children, and No One including tgem, will over ride you. ... My hubby's youngest sis is marrying. Groom's mom said she and her steady would not wear masks, after bride and groom had told everyone, masks must be worn. So they notified everone, we will leave it up to each person. So 41 of 47 guests, mostly her family and his friends, who had RSVP'd yes, called and cancelled. SIL called the venue, to delay when her count was due, they said, you promised masks. No masks, no use of venue. As of Wednesday, next week's wedding is on, again with masks. His mom and date won't come. 45 other guests will.

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These are so many good points that I didn't think of. This is not just about masks. For some reason some people are making this about masks, but it is so much more; it's really about values and priorities.

View Quoted Comment I agree. For them to flat out refuse a simple request from their son for his wedding speaks volumes. Never mind the fact of OPs own father being high risk. Just the act of refusing to honor a request from your child that is simply about keeping people safe is enough for me to say nope.