My parents are very traditional and feel the bride's parents need to host the wedding and pay for the wedding. They have made the majority of the payments so far but my FH's parents continue to offer us money for the wedding and tell us to put it whatever we need and any money leftover can be a gift. There are parts of the wedding my FH and I plan to pay for on our own, and the money from his parents would go to this. My parents want the wedding invitations to read: "Mr. & Mrs. ___ request your presence for the wedding of their daughter ___ to FH, son of Mr. & Mrs. ____" His parents are extremely offended by this given they want to pay and will be giving us the same amount of money my parents are spending on the wedding. They feel all parents should be listed at the top. My parents will not budge and cannot understand how his parents would even consider that when they are the parents of the bride.
FH and I feel stuck. We both understand the other family's opinions and don't know what to do.
We are in a very generous situation where both families would like to support us but it has caused some serious drama. We're trying to decide if one family is in the right but it doesn't seem to be the case and would love any help with a possible compromise?