Parents on Wedding Invitation?!?

If you're paying for it, you can put your names.

We put "the parents of Shellie and Ben request the honor of your presence....etc"

we are paying for the wedding ourselves, but we wanted to include our parents. this was it doesn't look like one particular set is hosting, but we can use more traditional wording.

I'm also seen "together with their parents" or just "Marlene and Bob would like to invite you to their wedding...."

We are just putting together with their parents jess G and Theodore H request blah bla blah

We paid for most of our wedding with both our parents help but we didn't put them on the invitation and they were ok with it since we had our kids name on them instead

You could put "together with their parents" if you want to include them but you could also just use your names

I found this on Emily Post's website.

Andrea Jane Brigante

and

Robert Holden White

request the honour of your presence at their marriage...

Oh ok... so it's really just to our discretion then. I would like to have them on there, I just didn't know the protocol since we'll be paying for the wedding ourselves...

thanks guys

Another family member is assisting us with paying for the wedding as well as my mother and FH parents .. but instead of putting any of their names we wrote ..

"We cherish the roles you play in our lives, and would be honored if you would join us as we enter into the journey of marriage" then we put our names, date, time, place etc

Is this something you talk about to your parents ahead of time? I'm in a similar situation and I'm worried about offending my mom if I do the "bride and groom invite you ... " approach.

I've got kind of a complicated situation. We're paying for everything; my parents split up not very amicably and my dad might be a guest but really has no contact w/ us so it seems wrong to address him on the invite.

FH's parents live abroad and while they fully support us getting married, they can't travel due to his dad's health. (We'll have another small wedding in that country later.)

Our choice to pay for our own wedding was made early on for several reasons, one of which being I know my mom isn't in a position to pay for it and I didn't want to see her try. If we do the no-parents-mentioned invite, are we basically letting everybody know this?

Or might guests just interpret it as "those independent, casual people are doing their thing" and not infer my parents didn't/couldn't help?

Both of our families helped pay for different portions of the wedding so we are using the working "together with their families" so and so request the honour of your presence...hope this helps!

Yeah.... Our parents aren't helping at all so they're not on our invitations. It's only supposed to say their names if they're paying for or in other words "hosting" the wedding. That's why the invitations would be to your guests from your parents.

You can do it that way if you want, No one will really know the difference. I've realized that not many (other than those who are recently, or soon to be married) even know wedding etiquette, so it's up to you!

Only if they are paying for it - then you add their names. Otherwise, you don't.

Most of those people, their parents are paying. You can put your own names. HOwever our parents are paying, but we are adults and feel that we are ALL throwing this party. So we checked with everyone and it was agreed and fine with them that we put "together with their parents, Jenn and Adam etc..."