Parents names on invites

You should include both with your family first.

Mr and mrs brides parents and me and mrs groom's parents invite you to the wedding of their children bride and groom.

If you are also paying,

Together with their families, bride and groom invite you..,

We did Together with their parents, Jane Doe and John Smith invite you to....

We did "Together with their parents, ..." or "Together with their families, ..." I forget which word we used.

Make sure both sets of parents are referenced on the invite, either by name or "together with their parents" verbiage. If you are listing parent names separately, put your families first to demonstrate that they are contributing more.

Weird it seems like many of the responses on here have disappeared. What do you think about this wording:

Mr.& Mrs. Brides parents are pleased to announce the marriage of their daughter

Brides name

to

Grooms Name

Son of Mr.& Mrs. Grooms parents

I tried it out with 'Mr and mrs brides parents and mr and mrs groom's parents invite you to the wedding of their children bride and groom.' but it looked kind of funny with it all at the top.

I should add that we are definitely contributing funds to the wedding as well, we have paid for all vendor deposits, save the dates and invites, and i paid for my own dress.

Ours was worded exactly as you have listed above because I felt like both sets of parents should be included on the invite---but my parents funded the wedding, DH parents paid for RD...my mom got upset that his parents names were on the wedding invite when they weren't paying for the "wedding".she got over it I suppose....or I guess quit bitching about it to me.

So we thought about doing that too.. An option we liked was “Mr. And Mrs. brides parents invite you to the wedding of brides name to grooms name, son of mr and Mrs grooms parents Saturday...”

I personally enjoy the "together with their families/parents" that I've seen a lot here, so it's what I'll go with. It's simplified but it gives them some credit

Our parents have said they don't care if their names are included. Personally I want their names listed out because without their contributions we wouldn't be having any more guests besides immediate family. I have a designed a few for fun and they all have

Mr. and Mrs. Bride's Parents

with Mrs. and Mrs. Groom's Parents

My sister (technically half sister) is getting married in 2018 and will most likely exclude any names considering it would be awkward to have my dad but not her mom listed. FBIL also has divorced parents.

TLDR: It just depends on what you want. You could ask if your parents have a preference if you're indifferent.

Thanks everyone! I think i will go with that format then. Technically my parents are the hosts and are paying for the majority of the wedding. FH's parents are contributing by paying for RD and giving us a cash gift as well (or so they say they plan to). I think putting my parents names first on top and saying 'request the honor of your presence at the marriage of their daughter..." and then putting 'son of' after grooms name makes it clear that my parents are hosting but also respects his parents by acknowledging them. I showed it to my mother and she is on board with the wording. I was really more concerned about FMIL as i have actually heard her say that she considered not attending a wedding because she got an invite for a friends daughter who did not mention her parents names on the invite (the couple paid for the wedding themselves), so i can already anticipate her getting upset by this.

This is how we did it sorry it's in Spanish lol but we did include both parents sides since they did help out a lot .

Putting their names after the groom's implies that they aren't cohosting. If FMIL got that upset at a friend's invitation, I'd put her name on top under your parents. Or ask her. Say "we really appreciate all you're doing for us for the wedding and want to include your name on the invitation. This is what we're thinking. Is that ok with you?"

We asked the parents and they didn't care if their names were on the invitations and they contributed similar to the above, with Hs mom funding the food for the RD and my dad contributing to the wedding. We thought it would be weird leaving his stepdad and my mom's names off so we did Together with their parents, and them put their names on the wedding program sign. Everyone seemed happy with that plan.

Things have definitely changed over the years, but traditionally it is the brides family who pays for the wedding / wedding day. Therefore, it is the brides parents inviting people to the wedding, which means it should just be their names on the invitation. However, as weddings are becoming more and more expensive, the grooms parents will most likely chip in to help for the wedding day, so it might be a nice gesture to include them on the wedding invitation.