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Parents exs drama

Samantha, on July 17, 2020 at 4:11 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 11
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We got married a week ago and we are having some drama from my step dads ex wife.
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My mom has been with my step dad at least 13 years now. He has a son that is severly autistic he cant talk, or do anything on his own. So at our wedding I wanted him in the wedding but my step dad said it would be easier on him to just be there and not in the bridal party. So thats what i did I invited my step brother to be there to eat and spend time with everybody. He lives with his mom I did not invite his mom (1 because I didn't think it was right 2 I wanted to make sure I had enough space for the immediate family.) My step dad never told his ex-wife what was going on so she thinks that he was never invited. My step dad is fighting with my mom bc he cant ever fess up to his wrongs. The game plan was...The ex wife drops him off at the receptionHe eats and spends time with usThe the ex wife comes and picks him up.My mom doesnt get along with the ex wife at all. Like what should i do?? My moms my best friend and i cant stand went someone is fighting with her especially when its not her fault.

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Latest activity by Samantha, on July 18, 2020 at 6:59 AM
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    Champion July 2019
    Veronica ·
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    I don't think this is something you should be getting in the middle of. Did you not send your step-brother an I invitation?
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  • Mrs. S
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    Mrs. S ·
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    As someone with lots of step family, I really think you should let them handle this.
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  • Sarah
    Master September 2019
    Sarah ·
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    You should do nothing. Putting yourself in the middle of this will likely cause more harm than good.
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    Savvy July 2020
    Samantha ·
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    I didnt send my step-brother and invitation. I didn't only because he can't read and he really wouldn't know he got an invitation to begin with. I told my step dad the game plan that I had in mind he just never told his ex-wife what was going on so she didn't know to bring him up at all. If I sent an invitation I was worried she would come with her husband and like I said I wanted to make sure I had enough room for my immediate family.
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  • Molly
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    Molly ·
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    I'm slightly confused, but what I am understanding is: you already had your wedding and your step brother came, but his mom thinks he was not invited and his mom is now fighting with your mom?

    I would just tell your step brothers mom that he was at your wedding.

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    Savvy July 2020
    Samantha ·
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    No he did not come to the wedding. He was invited but his mom did not bring him his mom think he was not invited because my step dad never told her he was.
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    Veronica ·
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    I think I would have sent an invite addressed only to him. I would have made it clear it was only for him to attend and then there would have been no confusion as to whether he was invited or not. Either way, I don't think you should be getting involved in this situation.

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  • Kimberly
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    Kimberly ·
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    He actually wasn’t invited as you didn’t send him an invitation. I understand you were depending on your step dad to make the arrangements but that should have been after sending the invitation. At this point you can’t get in the middle of it. They need to work it out themselves as a married couple.
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  • Natalie
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    Natalie ·
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    I’m not trying to be rude at all by implying this, but is it possible that despite knowing the arrangement you had wanted for your brother, your stepdad chose not to tell his ex-wife? Weddings can be extremely over-stimulating for those with autism or sensory issues, and it seems like your brother requires a lot of special care. Maybe your stepfather felt that such a big event would be sensory overload or that he would have a difficult time serving as his primary caretaker while also doing the duties of being stepfather of the bride.
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    Savvy July 2020
    Samantha ·
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    It is definitely possible. That's why I asked him what should I do because I wanted to include him in the wedding. I just feel like I'm hurt because everybody's getting yelled at and nobody's coming to me whenever I was the one that sent out the invitations. Yeah I'm not stressing out too much about it because it's not coming to me but it's this fact that everybody is going around the subject and the mom could have easily message me or called me and asked me why he didn't get an invitation. But his mom is screaming at everyone else.
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    Samantha ·
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    Also his mom said she might not bring him anyways because of everything with covid-19 on. She didn't want to take any chances. And now she goes and changes the whole story like that. I just feel like the wedding day is done and over with why I freaked out about it now? If they were that worried about it they could have easily called or texted me before the wedding asking what's going on
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