Parents dress colors

My mother in law chose her dress 2 days before the wedding. I honestly don’t think it’s that big of a deal. If your step mom picks a dress first let your mom know what color she’s wearing and she can’t pick it🤷‍♀️

I have never understood the parent’s dress debacle. I went with my mom when she got her dress only because we happened to already be out. Otherwise I wouldn’t have cared. If they both end up wearing navy blue, oh well. If my FMIL wears a dress she already has in her closet, cool.


If your mom is the one making a big deal over the color matching, it’s her own fault for waiting so long and I’d tell her to either suck it up and match, or pick a different color. 🤷‍♀️

Why does it matter what your mom wears? Let her pick a dress she likes and leave it at that. I dont see why youd need to know the color ahead of time...

I wouldn’t concern yourself with what your mom wears at all. And even if you gave her a deadline to pick a dress, what if she didn’t meet the deadline? Would you uninvite her to the wedding? This is just one of those things that isn’t worth the stress or worry!

Unfortunately I went through a similar problem with my mom and mother-in-law. My mother-in-law went shopping with my fiance and I because she wanted help picking out a dress. She never really wears dresses especially formal ones so she wanted our input. My mom was supposed to go shopping with us, but things came up and she couldn't go. My mother-in-law picked a dress that was black on the top and floral on the bottom. She planned to wear it to my wedding and my brother-in-law's wedding which was 6 weeks after ours. However, her sister told her she needed to wear two different dresses so she went shopping with her sister and she selected a purple one. My mom in the meantime ordered several purple dresses online to try one. She fell in love with one until my mother-in-law decided to wear the purple dress she got with her sister to our wedding. Originally she was going to wear the floral one, but the purple one was more formal and our wedding was more formal than my brother-in-law's. My mom made my life a living nightmare because she wanted to wear the purple one she loved, but she also didn't want to wear the same color as my mother-in-law. She picked a dress, but she really didn't like it. Up until a few days before the wedding, she was refusing to wear the dress she bought and she was just going to wear pants and a shirt, but after seeing me in my dress one last time she decided to wear the dress she bought because it finally dawned on her that no one would care what she was wearing. I don't have any advice sadly.

I think everyone seems to be missing the part where you mom was upset to match your step mom. I get wanting to make her pick but parents get very testy with wedding stuff. I think you should just calmly explain you want her to pick so you can be sure she doesn’t match your step mom, but that she should be respectful and pick with reasonable time for step mom to also pick.

Just let her do what she wants. If she doesn't' want to match your stepmom they can coordinate or not - you dont' need to be involved.