Parents being difficult!

My husband and I walked down the aisle together at our wedding! We actually got a lot of comments from our guests on how they loved that we chose to do that. It's not crazy or weird, and if you want to walk down the aisle with your FH, then that's what you should do! It doesn't matter what your mom or your guests think about it, because it's your wedding and not theirs.

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I'm so happy to hear that you also walked down with your FH Did you have a bridal party? I'm just curious to know if you had them walk in traditionally or also as couples. That aspect isn't set in stone for us, but walking down the aisle is staying - I just wish my mother could let go of the idea that everything has to be done "traditionally"

View Quoted Comment We had a wedding party as well! Each bridesmaid was paired with a groomsman, and they walked down the aisle together. Then we had our ring bearer and flower girl walk down the aisle after them, and then us. We did not have parents or grandparents walk down the aisle.


We got rid of a lot of traditions from our wedding, and replaced some wedding traditions with our own traditions (such as, our unity ceremony was a whiskey blending ceremony, we served tiramisu instead of cake, we walked each other down the aisle, etc), and other traditions we just eliminated and did not replace (bouquet and garter tosses, staying apart the night before the wedding, spotlight dances with parents, etc). It's totally fine to do non-traditional things at your wedding! I actually think it makes the wedding more unique and interesting, and I love seeing all the ways that each couple incorporates their personalities and traditions from their relationship into their wedding.

We didn't walk in together, but I certainly wouldn't think it was "weird" if we went to a wedding at which the bride and groom did. Even if someone does, that's their business and their problem - not yours, you do what makes you and FH happy. I'm sorry your mom is giving you pushback though. (My mom definitely noted that people might think some things were weird or unusual, and I asked her when I had started caring about what others thought lol - she stopped mentioning it - and the wedding was exactly what we wanted)

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Thank you both! We're going to stick to our plan and keep with the "it's our wedding, our way" mantra. We're also getting rid of a lot of the traditions - no bouquet or garter toss, we're having a cutting cake, but serving creme brulee instead of cake, no spotlight dances (or dancing in general lol since it's just a dinner party of 18), walking down the aisle together and having our wedding party walk together as well, and ultimately - the only person who will find any of these things "odd" is my mother... the rest of the guests are my FH's parents (his mom got married in a pants suit and the ceremony was in a state park - so they're all about doing what feels right for us!), our siblings, and our closest friends. Everyone else has been super supportive in our relationship. It's just upsetting that my parents don't accept anything other than what they think is right.

View Quoted Comment Awesome that you are sticking to what you and your FH want! Hopefully as your wedding gets closer, your mom will accept your choices, and she may even find that she loves your non-traditional choices once she sees how everything plays out. Best wishes for a wonderful wedding day!

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This sounds lovely. You're going to have a beautiful day

Thank you all! I'm sure it will all work out and if my mom does end up sticking to her "this is weird" stance I believe that she'll be the only one on the day with that thought!

It’s your wedding and you are free to do whatever you desire. You can make it your own and to you and fiancés liking. Old traditions are just that. Many of them are outdated and People are afraid of change. Go for it.

Maybe just say that it will symbolize the anticipated union of your lives into one beautiful married life

View Quoted Comment Skylar, if only it were that easy lol. I've determined that she is just against anything that isn't what she considers "normal". A couple's wedding day should be about what the couple wishes, sadly some people put their personal expectations above that. 😊 We are going to do what feels right to us.

View Quoted Comment That's good, you should totally stand by your vision for your big day. I hope everything goes smoothly when you have this discussion with them

I'm planning to walk down the aisle by myself and also received a lot of family backlash saying "you must have someone walk down with you to give you away", "maybe your uncle or cousin can walk you down", "why don't you ask your mother to walk you down".... There will always be opinions from family. My response to all their comments was "I hear you, but this won't be a traditional wedding and this is my desire". Do what you want as it's your day!

View Quoted Comment Connie I think that's awesome! I considered doing that as well. Like you said, a couple's wedding day is for them and should be what they want. 😊