Parents attire

Our girls in the bridal party wore plum purple dresses so FMIL wore a lilac one, which was nice! The guys all wore tuxes with purple ties and the dad's and grandfather wore gray ties.

Both my mom and FMIL are choosing their own dresses. My mom's dress is purple so it doesn't match the BMs dresses. FMIL hasn't found her dress yet. I told my dad he could wear a suit or dress shirt/tie and FFIL will probably be doing the same

Parents do not need to match the wedding colors.

Your dad plans to wear a tux but your FH doesn’t plan on dressing up? Huh?

Let them wear what they want.

I don't think the parents attire have to match. But I have a follow up question....your FH doesn't plan on dressing up to his own wedding? I'm guessing since your dad is wearing a tux its not a casual affair.

We let ours wear what they wanted. They did not match the wedding colors.

Mrs.TacoCat- my Dad is taking this wedding stuff very seriously and wants to wear a tux and take dance lessons and practice a speech. It's all really sweet. FH dad thinks it's all a big waste of money and doesn't understand why we are doing anything formal at all. He doesn't own a suit and was just planning on wearing a polo shirt. I don't want to micromanage what he wears. He'll be walking down the aisle and I just don't want him to be surprised when he sees that others are wearing tuxes and suits.

Both my mom and my MIL wanted to match the bridal party colors, and my dad and FFIL wanted to get new suits. It isn't a must though.

Sorry Laura- I fixed it. That was supposed to say FFIL not FH. FH and groomsman are all wearing tuxes.

My mom wanted to match the wedding colors so she's wearing cranberry. FH's mom and memaw asked me what to wear... i told them whatever they wanted and told them our colors. FMIL and FGMIL decided to wear cranberry too. I have no clue what the dad's are gonna wear.

@Bailey- sounds like my FFIL- did he ask you what to wear or anything?

Ahhhh ok, I'd tell him that your dad and others are dressing pretty formal and then let him make his decision so he's not surprised

I think people, especially ones not in the bridal party, matching the wedding colors is kinda weird. You don't want to be too matchy matchy with everything..

Both Fathers are wearing the same tuxes as the groomsmen, and the mothers are wearing wedding color dresses.

I told the moms to wear whatever they wanted. MIL wore a pale yellow lacy number, mom wore a black and white boat-neck midi dress, and stepmom wore a teal lacy sleeveless dress. H wore dark brown slacks and a dark brown bow tie. My dad wore khakis and a matching tie.

Our wedding was on the casual side.

@Boozy, thats what I told my mom but she really wanted to wear cranberry. I don't plan on using cranberry much otherwise for that exact reason.

ETA: fixing Boozy's name... oops sorry Boozy!

My MIL was involved in the wedding planning and had a dress in a similar color as my girls, I got my dad the same color tie as my bridesman. My mom was not involved in planning whatsoever, so I had no idea what she'd wear until the day off. FIL showed up in jeans and by pure coincidence, his shirt (T-shirt, not button down) happened to match the colors.

It's nice if your FH can give his dad a heads up, but if he doesn't care, I would not insist on him wearing anything special.

Both my mom and FMIL asked me my opinions on whether I wanted them to match. I simply gave them swatches of the BM dresses and told them to wear whatever color they wanted. If they choose to coordinate with the wedding colors, they can compare the color to our main color to decide if it looks good to them.

My dad wanted to wear a tux. We just asked FH's dad and stepdad if either of them wanted to be included in the tux rental group and told them it was completely up to them. Both have chosen to wear their own suits.

Thanks guys! I think when it gets closer we'll mention what others are wearing and just let him do what he wants. I've been to a wedding where everyone matched but that was in 1989. Maybe it's not as popular now.

The parents should match the formality of the wedding party. If your FH is in a tux, your dads should be in tuxes. If your FH is NOT wearing a tux, your dad shouldn't wear a tux. The color doesn't have to match- just the formality. Here are our parents! I don't love this pic so please forgive the awkward pose lol but this is the only pic of all of our parents together. DH's parents are divorced and couldn't stand next to each other

ETA: Our wedding colors were blue - the dad's had blue ties on, but not matching the groomsmen, and as you can see the mom's are not in blue. The parents do not need to/should not (IMO) match the bridal party colors.