Parents and Grandparents

I would just let them wear something they’re comfortable in. Aside from the men all in black tuxes/suits, I’ve never seen parents or grandparents match the wedding colors.

I've always seen where parents stay within the same color family as the wedding colors but not necessarily match. Our main color and the color that the bridesmaids are wearing is light blue and my mom picked out a silver dress. It doesn't match whatsoever but it complements the blue really nicely and that was her goal. My dad is wearing grey but a different shade than the groomsmen and I did get him a matching tie.

Dads wore tuxes so I asked them to wear a specific color. My mom picked her own color but discussed her attire with me.
Everyone else chose their own attire with out talking to me, my MIL sent me picture of the 3 she was choosing between but she chose her own. They all chose neutral colors and it was fine. There was no reason to have them in specific colors.

Parents and grandparents are not your chosen WP, for whom you choose clothing or any accessories. They are family, even Dad walking you down the aisle. They dress in whatever they want, so they feel attractive and comfortable, in the same level of formality as the wedding party or one step down, the same as any other guests. So if the wedding party is formal in tuxes, Dads need not match groom or groomsmen. They would wear tuxes, or very dressy suits. Their choice of color and style. Mothers, formal evening gowns, floor length, or very dressy special occasion dress, long or cocktail length, or a dressy suit. Any color, her choice, not bride. Mothers may themselves choose to wear similar colors and styles, or different ones. They do not need to check with each other. Or bride.

Thanks so much! This is super helpful!

I would let them know the colours and ask that they have something with one of those in it. I’d also think about making little corsage/boutonnières for them to wear. Smaller than the wedding party and Parents, but.....

Grandma has a dress before I even had one or anyone in our party. For my mom I let her pick whatever she wanted. The dad’s are matching tux with the groomsman. Is a simple black tux, white shirt and black bow tie, simple classic look so they’re matching.
For girls I let them pick whatever color or style works better for them. I only said no white and no black.

We let our parents know our colors but it wasn't a requirement that they match..our moms of course want to lol. Our colors are navy blue, wine, & champagne. My mom is wearing navy blue & his mom is wearing champagne. I'm not sure what my dad is wearing yet. I didn't even tell my granddad the colors but he'll probably wear a suit or a nice button up & slacks

I'm not telling mine to wear a certain color they can wear whatever outfit they want lol

I'm not picking the colors for the grandparents at all, they can wear whatever they want.

I also really didn't "pick" for the parents. My mom chose her own dress, but it is in an accent color to my wedding colors. We picked black tuxes for the dad's but they are choosing their own vest and tie, so my dad picked a color to match my mom's dress, and therefore accenting our wedding colors. I have no idea what FH's parents and step-parents are wearing and I don't care lol

Parents and grandparents get to wear whatever they want. You don't get to dictate anything. If, big IF, they ask, you can make suggestions, but still don't dictate. You can also go shopping with them IF they ask. As long as they feel confident and comfortable in their attire, they are good to go.

We plan to have our grandparents & parents walk in to start the ceremony, even picked a song for them to walk to....but not planning their outfits. I figured they can just wear what they want, and don't need to match. However, if you want to pick their attire, then maybe you could provide them both colors and let them pick something in either one.

My colors are blue and gold and our parents decided that they would like to match! So the fathers are wearing grey suits like the groomsmen and the moms decided that since the bridesmaids are wearing blue they’d like to wear gold ! They decided to match on their own

Ours wore whatever they were comfortable in within the formality of the wedding. I didn’t tell them what the bridesmaids and groomsmen were wearing and didn’t know what any of the parents or grandparents were wearing until they showed up at the wedding.

Let them wear what they want and are comfortable with.

I would advise whatever they are comfortable in that fits the formality. Our moms want to match the colors to a point, I know my mom is going for a sage green. If they say that want to match (this is not uncommon in my area) I would give them as much input as far as colors or styles they want. It’s not required but I think it makes my mom feel included and very MOB lol.