HTB's parents have devorced and remarried, mine are still together, his step father is officianting for us, his bio father is a groomsmen. We are paying for our wedding ourselves, his bio mom and step father may or may not be paying for our photographer (they havent told us that and HTB thinks his mother will tell us the day of, but the photographer hinted at it), we are having the full wedding at my family's lakehouse and it needs a lot of work, both of my parents, me, and HTB are doing all of the yard/house work. HTB two sisters, their husbands, and their (4 total) kids, along with HTB's two boys, my cousin, and both of our best friends are in the wedding party. WHO DO I NEED TO GET GIFTS FOR?! Who do I HAVE to get gifts for. The entire wedding is extremely low budget and I read some people say "a 20$ gift means just as much as 100$ gift" but we have 6 parents, (two overlapping as wedding party members), 4 adult siblings (including in-laws), 6 children (ranging 6-12), 1 cousin, 2 friends as MOH & Best Man, thats 19 people 19 x 20 is almost 400$, that more than what we are spending on food (yes, that is how low budget we are making this).
I cant find ANY sweet messaged presents that are "From groom to father-in-law", only funny "from bride to father-in-law" and even those ones wouldnt actually be funny in this family, I can barely find "Step mother/father from bride" and the ones i do find dont fit, cant find almost ANY "to father in-law from groom".
I dont know what to get all these people that wont cost an arm & a leg/ actually fits our situation. I feel as though any and all sugestions I get or will get wont work. Sorry for the negativity, it just seems like there is all this etiquette but then there are no presents to give. Like, I dont want to get someone a regular gift I would give them on their birthday, if im giving them a present on my wedding day is sould have a message about how much i love there son and how thankful i am to them as his parents ( and the other way round for him to my parents), but all that really seems to be out there like that are only from the bride to my mother, bride to his bio mother, bride to his father, a couple from groom to my mother, and a couple that are groom to his father.
IDK maybe this is just a rant and no one can help me with this problem, maybe i've barely even asked a question here, I just don't know what to do or how to handle this. There are too many people involved and maybe its in my head but i feel as though, I'M the ONLY one really doing ANYTHING for this wedding (which i know isnt true, i listed above what our parents are doing, but even still that stuff feels like it pales in comparison to the amount of things ive had to cordinated, bought, organized, stressed over, DIY'ed, ect,.)
Im going to end it here bc im going in circles and my grammar has gotten worse and worse the more i type.
If you think you can help me, please comment