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Miriya
Just Said Yes October 2020

Parental Issues

Miriya, on March 12, 2020 at 8:42 AM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 3

Hey there! So my fiance and I will be getting married this October but my parents are very wishy washy about the wedding planning. They keep sending us very mixed messages on what they feel about our wedding. They are paying for the majority of the wedding expenses so we value their opinion and take to heart what they say, but they will tell us that they want to cut costs, which is fine, but then when we bring the cost cutting plan (for example using a caterer that doesn't provide staff, or using plastic plates and utensils instead of renting) they don't approve and would rather just pay the price for the full service caterer and rent the dinnerware from a rental facility. This has been causing major stress on both me and my husband to be. We have tried to discuss this with them and express our feelings by telling them that it feels as though they are sending mixed messages and it is making it very difficult to not feel guilty about the decisions we make, but it seems to fall of deaf ears especially because my parent think it is a waste of money to have a wedding in the first place, but also don't want to look cheap.

Any advice??

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Latest activity by Melle, on March 12, 2020 at 11:39 AM
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    Legend June 2019
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    I would sit them down and ask them for their budget. And then plan within the means of that budget and whatever goes over I’d just cover it myself
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    Just Said Yes October 2020
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    That's another problem we've been running into. We did sit down and discuss budget so we've made the arrangements for everything to fit and anything that we've wanted that they have found outrageous expense wise we have offered to pay for, but then they say they don't want us paying or contributing. It's very confusing for us and is adding more stress to an already stressful time.

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    Legend June 2019
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    I think when it gets to that point maybe just have them pay for what they want to pay then like photography, food, etc and the rest you pay for yourself. Or just pay for yourself in general because sometimes in accepting someone else’s money there comes contingencies and if you want what you want it’s easier just getting it yourself
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