Hi everyone, I could use some outside perspective on a tricky family situation.
My fiancé and I are in the middle of planning our wedding, and one of the things we’ve decided is that we want the only kids at the wedding to be those who are in the ceremony (ring bearer, flower girls, etc.). For us, that means our nephew (a newborn, who will be the ring bearer) and a few of my fiancé’s younger cousins that he’s very close with.
Here’s where the conflict comes in: my parents are upset because I have a godson (and they also have godsons) who I love dearly, but we didn’t picture them being part of the wedding party. My fiancé’s side has more younger cousins, while my side doesn’t really. My parents feel like it’s “unfair” that only his side’s kids are included.
I do love my godson, but when I imagined my wedding, I always pictured the kids in the ceremony being immediate/blood relatives. I know my parents see it differently, and I’m worried this will keep becoming a point of tension.
Has anyone else dealt with this? How did you explain your decision about who was included in the wedding party (especially with kids) without it causing a huge argument? I’d love some advice on how to hold this boundary kindly but firmly.