Parent Involvement

My parents came to our catering tasting, that was it. We wanted to plan our own wedding and didn't want to give anyone a false sense that they had any input on our decisions.

Our parents came to the tasting. My mother-in-law was the one that really wanted a social hour So I was like OK then you can figure it out ha ha. Other than that they weren’t really involved

The only thing my mom came to was dress shopping. His parents are divorced and live out of state/hours away. My grandpa is paying for our very tiny wedding but no one had any input or was involved with any decision making/tasting. Thankfully they let us be in full control!

Our parents contributed the total cost of our wedding. They came with us on venue tours and to the tasting. My mom and mother in law also came dress shopping with me. We invited them to these things more so because we valued their opinion and not so much because they were contributing money.

FH and I are paying for the entire thing ourselves...Our venue is basically all-inclusive, minus floral. My parents live in a different state so they won't be involved in much of anything. My mom and sister came out to go dress shopping with me, luckily I found the one when they were here. FH parents were invited to an open house of the venue (after we already booked) since they are in the same state; his dad is the only one that came since his mom had to work. I don't think they'll be participating/invited to anything else planning wise.

Our parents were highly involved in our wedding planning, but they paid for the majority of our wedding so that was to be expected.

Our parents paid for most of it and didn’t come to anything besides my mom coming to dress shopping. We didn’t really involve them with planning.

We paid for 90% of our wedding. We stayed at my mother-in-law's house the weekend we toured venues. We chose to get married in between where both families live so it was about a four our drive from our house, but two hours from her house so it made sense to stay at her house. We went by ourselves on Saturday to tour venues. After touring venues, our friends told us they saw his mom at work on Saturday and she was sad because we didn't invite her to go with us so we invited her to go with us on Sunday. Since we invited his mom, I felt it was only fair if my mom went with us as well. Other than touring venues, my mom went dress shopping with me for my wedding dress. She also went with me to pick out bridesmaids dresses. I invited my mother-in-law to go dress shopping with us, but she was always busy. My mom also went with me to my final meeting with my florist since my husband was out of town. My sister-in-law who was a bridesmaid went with me for my hair and makeup trial. Otherwise, my husband and I met with vendors on our own. My parents paid for my wedding dress and alternations. On the day of our wedding, the florist came to my husband demanding the rest of her payment even though I had told her I would handle paying her since I had the checkbook. My mom overheard the conversation and she paid the remaining balance. My mom, my grandmother, and my brother's wife (bridesmaid) decorated the venue for our rehearsal dinner. My mom paid for half of my bridal shower. My mother-in-law paid for our rehearsal dinner. My husband's father was the only parent that didn't contribute anything.

View Quoted Comment I think we are going to involve parents in the dress/suit choosing. My mom and MiL for my dress, my dad and FIL for his suit. Honestly, my fiancé is a truck driver so I might invite in laws to cake and food tasting. By default they will see the venue since everything is in one place.

My FH's mom and dad have passed away. My dad isn't helping with anything, but mom helped by paying the deposit on our venue and bought my dress and veil. Other than that we're paying for everything else.

We're pretty much paying for everything ourselves, but both of our parents have all offered assistance. My parents aren't together so they separately told me they'll give me some money (which I'll likely use for my dress), my godmother is paying for our cake, my Nana is paying for the flowers, his mom is paying for the bar, and his dad said if we need help paying anything then they'll help (they said this is what family is for & it's no troubles at all). Even though we are getting some help, all decisions are still up to us. We didn't invite anyone for help, every single person offered. I'm not one to ask for money like that.

We invited my parents and FH’s mom to go check out the venue with us. FH’s mom came to our engagement shoot to help watch the dog. My mom went with me to meet with the florist and to dress shop. My parents went with us to the food tasting. My parents are paying for the majority of the wedding (and his family is also contributing), but we invited them because we enjoy spending time with them, value their opinions, and want to share the excitement! We haven’t invited FH’s dad and stepmom with us because they are, for lack of better word, cheap, and FH gets easily frustrated with them in general!

I should also add that while we have taken them along to quite a few wedding appointments, we have also gone to meet vendors on our own and are ultimately the ones making the actual decisions!

My parents have not really been involved in our wedding planning. My mom came with dress shopping, though they have not been involved in any other details, since my fiance and I are paying for our wedding ourselves.

So we live over 6 hours away from all of our parents, which severely limits interactions.
My parents gave us money for the wedding and told me to have the wedding I want and use any extra money for whatever I need to.
My mom did drive down when I tried on dresses, but that’s the only thing that anyone has been involved with.

His parents aren’t involved at all and neither is my step dad. His parents don’t live near us, but even if they did, we wouldn’t really invite them to much. They don’t ask about the wedding, but we sometimes share details with them about the wedding to make them feel included and so that they can’t say we kept it all a secret. There are also certain things I want to make sure they know, such as the fact that it’ll be an unplugged ceremony.
My mom is very involved, and we want her to be. She’s very supportive and understanding and doesn’t try to push anything onto us. She wants us to have the wedding that we truly want to have. She went with us to the venue for our first meeting there and spent the car ride home circling food choices that she thought would be best! lol She also went dress shopping with me (of course) and went with me to the florist. If FH had been able to go to the florist, she still would have come. I’ve asked for her input on our dessert table choices. We booked the photographer and DJ without any input, but we did share all of the details with her after. She’s also going to come with us for our tasting (partially because it’s food and partially because a couple of the options we want to include as choices are things my FH won’t touch).
The biggest thing she’s doing, though, is hand painting designs on our centerpieces.

My parents helped pay, but they were out-of-state, and only were able to see the venue on a brief visit.

My in-laws, however, came to all of the venues with us (we asked, as they live in the city we got married in).

However, it's up to you. My in-laws were happy to be supportive, but did not expect to be involved unless we wanted, and then were out of the country for a few months. DH and I did run a lot of the contracts past our parents, just to get another set of eyes on them, but we made pretty much all the decisions ourselves.

We were quite prepared to pay for our wedding ourselves but both sets of parents offered some money, no strings attached bar some guests they wanted invited who were already on the list anyway. We got married in DH’s home town, which is a couple of hours from where we live; I had a day off work one Friday so I went up to go venue hunting and MIL offered to drive me around the various places. She was so keen not to overstep she asked at the first one if I wanted her to come in or not (of course I did!), bless her. My mum was in town for one of my dress shopping trips (they’re a three hour flight away) and it was actually the one when I found my dress; she also managed to get to my last fitting so she could be shown how to bustle my dress. I think we bounced ideas off both sets of parents but not to a huge extent.

We're paying for it mostly ourselves but our parents did give us some money towards a few things we needed right away. My mom also brought my wedding shoes!

I live across the country from my parents, they are paying for half. We expected to pay a couple thousand extra than them to afford what we wanted, but we've been able to save up a lot and we wanted to add some things like a string quartet, so now we've matched what my parents are offering. My FIL's live down the street from FH and I but they aren't contributing financially. Neither of them have much involvement in the planning. My parents don't really seem to care much about the wedding (not a surprise to me) and have let me make the decisions, but they'll get annoyed about it later. My FIL's just asks me to let them know when I need their help with stuff.