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Parent Gifts

Grace, on May 9, 2022 at 2:11 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 9

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Looking for some advice on parent gifts! I know traditionally the gifts are given to the two sets of parents but I’m not sure what to do in our situation. FH’s parents are divorced. His dad is remarried and his mom is dating someone we’ve only met twice. FH is closer to his grandmother than anyone else in his family and she’s more of a mother role to him than his own mom. I feel like it would be wrong to not get her a gift as well, but then we would also have to include my grandparents, who I am not as close to. What should we do? Also, do we include his mom’s boyfriend in the gift or not? Any input is appreciated, thanks!

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Latest activity by Erin, on May 10, 2022 at 8:51 AM

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Elycia · on May 9, 2022 at 3:20 PM
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I would get gifts for the parents specifically, a gift for mom and a gift for dad. Forget their SO's. Then your fiance can get a separate gift for his grandmother as well. I dont know why that means you would have to get one for yours unless youre presenting them publicly.
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Lady · on May 9, 2022 at 3:40 PM
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Parent gifts aren't a tradition at all.
I would get them wedding photo books when you get pictures back if you feel like you need to get something for them. Easy, wedding related, and everyone will appreciate it.
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Grace · on May 9, 2022 at 3:44 PM
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Thanks for the input! My sister and her husband gave the parent gifts at their rehearsal dinner so I wasn’t sure. Personally I’d rather it be a private thing anyway so I’ll do that!
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Grace · on May 9, 2022 at 3:45 PM
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Thanks for the idea! I haven’t been to a lot of weddings so I’m not totally sure what is and isn’t tradition. My sister gave the parents really nice cutting boards so I assumed everyone did gifts. 😅
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Michelle · on May 9, 2022 at 5:53 PM
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Agree with this. Give photo books of your wedding to the parents/grandparents you each are close to. Your sides don’t have to match.
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Erin · on May 9, 2022 at 10:08 PM
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Usually parent gifts are given to ones that contribute financially as a way to thank them. Both sets of parents are contributing, so we are of course getting both gifts. Are all parent or grandparent members of your families contributing? If you still want to get all gifts regardless of financial contribution, I’d say spend a little more on the gifts for ones that actually did to show your appreciation for their help.
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Grace · on May 10, 2022 at 7:08 AM
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Thanks for the advice!
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Grace · on May 10, 2022 at 7:16 AM
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Thanks Erin, I didn’t realize that! My parents are helping and the wedding is even in their backyard so we will definitely get them a nice gift. FH’s dad is paying for the rehearsal dinner. FH’s grandmother isn’t helping with the wedding but has helped us paint our entire house without asking. 😅
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Erin · on May 10, 2022 at 8:51 AM
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No problem! 😊
That’s really awesome of them! 😄
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