Parent gifts

Gifts aren’t given to parents because of their involvement in the wedding, they’re given because they raised you into the person you are. I personally feel like it’s your FS’s decision if they want to give gifts to their parents, not yours.

View Quoted Comment He is torn and I'm posting it for him. And they didn't raise him for most of his life, his grandma did. And we are getting her a gift

I think it's up to you whether you want to or not. If you are giving gifts at the rehearsal dinner or morning of the wedding getting ready it would be obvious that they are not getting a gift while others are. I think that it wouldn't hurt to get them something small as a family member on the day of the wedding.

I wouldn't, as a matter of fact I'm not. If my fiance wants to that's up to him but just like yours, he was raised by his grandmother who unfortunately is gone as well as his dad. His mom left them when he and his sister were only 1 and 4 years old, she's still around but that's it. We'll be happy if she shows up. Meanwhile my entire family is being involved and is also helping financially, they been supportive every step of the way not just with me through my life but they now see him as a son too. Personally I wouldn't sweat it, do what feels right for you two and enjoy your wedding!

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I really agree with Elizabeth

Gifts are not required at all for parents, just a thank you note. Couples usually give framed photos or an album later, but these pre-wedding gifts are a trend pushed by those who profit from you buying them. Not a requirement of etiquette. So if you feel one set of parents, or 1 parent , have really gone out of their way to be helpful, give only to them. But don't give it at a dinner or party, present it at another time when others are not there. Like proposal gifts, and stuff at parties and getting ready that many brides are getting, this is a recent trend. Not ever etiquette. So give to those you want, or none at all. Don't feel, I am giving one to this one so I have to....NO. Remember them on their birthdays, Mother's Day Father's Day weekend, anniversaries and holidays if you wish. A sincere letter of thanks for those who help, is required. The rest, do what you want. Just because every wedding related website "suggests" parent gifts, and all kinds of others, because they profit ( and tv, movies, social media get paid too), these gifts are not traditional, or necessary. Give gifts where it is in your heart, and skip the rest.

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Thank you for this note! I was curious about what etiquette on this element. One of my bridesmaids is heavily hinting she wants gifts. I did a proposal box with her name on a wine glass, figured i was good other than a thank you note. I don't think she is mindful I am paying for everything on a teacher's budget.

I think giving them something small is nice

We're getting both sets of our parents a little something. For the guys, we're doing engraved pocketknives with their names; for the ladies, a little keepsake charm necklace or something similar. We'll pair them with cards that share some sweet things and a big thank you for being a part of our lives.