Parent gift concern...

Until recently gifts to parents at wedding time we're occasionally done, but other than an album or framed picture after the wedding, people gave letters of thanks to parents who helped with the wedding. And gifts or visits for parent's birthday, father's day and any holiday gifts. Gifts for parents before weddings are not expected .
Since reality TV started, they , advertiser supported, have pushed presents from all guests at engagement parties, gifts when "proposing" to bridesmaids, gifts while getting ready, gifts at bachelorette parties, when the only long term traditional thing has been one individual personal gift ( not all alike) to each MOH, BM , BM, or GM given close to the wedding, either in private or at RD.
Don't feel you need to do a parent gift, or any of the other very recent trend of gifts for everyone, all the time. If it isn't heartfelt, and a really sentimental thing, just do not do it .

I never really understand all the gift giving to every single person. We're not giving gifts to our mothers but we are honoring them by having them wear corsages, maybe you could do something like that? Also parents of a certain age like our parents are not expecting any gifts, it just wasn't done when they were married.

I would just give a gift to his dad or maybe something they can both use like a gift card.

Typically the parent gift is to thank them for financial contributions to the wedding. If they aren't paying for anything, you don't really need to give them a gift.

I'd probably write them a "thanks for supporting us" card regardless, but I think gifts depend on what you're doing for your own family. If your parents are contributing to the wedding and you're planning on getting them a gift, and don't want your FH's family to be upset, I think a card with a promise of a photo album after the wedding, and maybe a gift card could be a good way to get them something, but maybe not as much as you would if they were helping out.

We gave gifts to every person but honestly I don't think it's necessary at all.

I've actually never heard of this tradition until we started planning our wedding. I probably wouldn't bother giving them one.

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Thank you...I don't remember getting gifts for being in a wedding (except when the bride wanted all of us to have matching necklaces-she bought them for us.) I've always been under the impression that the fact that I'm paying for everyone to come have fun and eat, drink and be merry is gift enough. lol

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That's a good idea. Thank you!

Thank you all for your advice! I appreciate all of your insight!

We aren’t doing parent gifts. Other than nice framed photos of the wedding afterward.

We will do a nice card for my mom who is paying for our flowers. We are paying for everything else ourselves.