Parent dances?

Skipping them is absolutely fine. We'll be skipping them as well; while not exactly the same relationships, my FH and his mom don't want to dance and I don't have the type of relationship with my dad that I'd want to dance with him either. As a guest, I personally wouldn't miss those dances either (I normally just want the dance floor to open so I can get out there!).

Sure. Skip it and don’t even make it a topic. My guess is that each of your parents is clearly aware of of the strained relationship. So they probably aren’t expecting a dance. I’d give them a gift and leave the dance out.

I understand, we'll also be skipping them. But despite what PP have said about "they'll expect it" that might not necessarily be true. My dad acted so upset about it, while I (and the rest of my family) thought it was very obvious I wouldn't want one. So I blamed it on not wanting too much spotlight on us and wanting the reception more casual. Also that my FMIL wouldn't want one because it's not her culture and makes no sense to do only one parent. So I suggest having reasons ready besides "I don't want to dance with you".

I would definitely skip it. If they say anything you could just say you don’t want too many formalities at your reception and to make people stand around watching a bunch of slow dances 🤷🏻‍♀️

Yeah you don't have to do them. Just do your first dance and that's it. If they ask just say you don't want the reception to focus on dancing rather people relaxing.

We are skipping them. I don’t have a dad to dance with (he’s been out of the picture for a long time). His mom doesn’t dance a whole lot. We are also asking everyone to join in on our first dance to take the pressure off!

We are skipping it. I am not even inviting my dad because we don’t have a good relationship, and FH won’t have the dance with his mom so I don’t feel bad. Don’t feel uncomfortable on your day for someone who hasn’t been there for you. Just don’t plan for it, and don’t bring it up. If they do, say you’re not comfortable with it, and stand your ground.

I have a similarish situation...I love my dad, we never had a problem or a falling out. he was just never in my life. My parents have an amazing relationship, actually getting married this year after 35 years together and I love them both. Though I love him as a person and as my dad, itd feel like hypocricy to me. I moved away to another country 10 years ago. Saw him twice since then and maybe Skyped 40-50 times. That's very few and far in between for a decade... Father daughter dance is such a sweet moment between people who are close or used to be close at least and my dad and I never really were. So it's still up in there - he's a great guy and I love him, just never felt like he was a good dad. If I had a bad relationship with him - I wouldn't think twice about it. If ur fiance doesn't do a dance w his mom - it will be so easy to just say you either forgot about it or didn't even think about it...

I think skipping is completely fine, it would be hurtful if one of you guys did it and the other parent watched and got in their feels... but you both are opting out and at the end of the day you do not want to share this moment and shouldn't have too!

We're skipping it. For my fiance, he just feels really uncomfortable with the idea of dancing with his mom. For me, it's more that I can't bring myself to dance with my dad. It's just not our type of bond. I'm not letting him walk me down the aisle either. I'm walking alone. We want to be comfortable on our special day, and this is what we're going to do. If anyone is offended, sorry! But it is what it is

I would definitely skip them if you’re not comfortable with them. It may hurt/offend them, but it sounds like it was their own doing. Just be strong and remember the day is about the two of you!