Parent Dances

Most weddings I've been to only have a father/daughter dance. We did a combined parents dance only because I didn't want to be the only one out there for the father/daughter dance (my relationship with my dad is complicated). I think it would be perfectly fine to just have a father/daughter dance, especially if your FH and his mother are not comfortable with their own dance.

We are doing the opposite - my father has never really be around so he is invited but not walking me down the aisle or doing a first dance. However, FH and his mom will do a dance because I don't want to take that away from them just because my dad isn't around.

It's traditional to have only the father/daughter dance. The mother/son dance was added later. We are combining the father/daughter mother/son dance mostly because I wanted more people on the dance floor with me! I think it's fine to have just the father/daughter dance.

I think you should have your father daughter dance. I know she's afraid of dancing but it's a Memory she will have forever dancing with her son as a married man for the first time so maybe she will reconsider? She could just stand there and sway with him, that's what my husband and his mom did and we have the most amazing photos of them dancing together which he will cherish forever. If they really don't want to do the dance though I still think you should do yours.

I don't think it's weird to just do yours. If your FH wanted to honor his mom in another way that she'd be more comfortable with that would be a nice touch. But you shouldn't miss out on that special dance with your dad!

We have the opposite. My father has never been involved, FHs mom wants a mother/son dance and I don't want to take that away. FH wants me to dance with his dad...idk. I love his dad but I don't know if I'm comfortable dancing with his dad. Just shines the light on the fact that I don't have a dad-something that has taken me awhile to be okay with. Good thing is I have time to think about what I want to do!

I'm forgoing a dance with my dad because FH has a bad relationship with his mother. The kind where she would cause a scene if I had a dance with my dad and she didn't dance with FH.

I plan on dancing with my dad throughout the night and he totally understands. I see it as one less thing I'll be crying about that day.

We're only doing the father/daughter dance. FH's culture is not about all eyes on them, so would make his mom feel awkward to do it.

Sure, you can only do one. We were planning on only doing the mother/son dance, until my dad mentioned he would like to dance with me at my wedding. (I'm not sure he has EVER danced in his life, but I'm super happy and surprised)

I've actually seen more father dances than mother/son dances. Don't worry about it one bit. It will be just fine.

Thanks ladies! This makes me feel much better!!

Ah good post!! I've been a little upset at my fiancé for not wanting to do a mother/daughter dance and had no idea that was added later on. Now I'm okay w that option as long as Fiancés mother is. I didn't really want to have this dance either but my dad said he did. I've know people who have forgone dancing with their dads and they have regretted it.

My FH doesn't know how to dance so we will be taking dance lessons. We will be doing both at different times. It's okay to only have one!

I dont see an issue...I'm making my dad dance with me. He's taken my little sister to 2 father daughter dances and I haven't been able to get him to do one dance with me! Yes I'll admit I'm 21 and jealous that my 8 year old sister has gotten to do things like that when he wouldn't with me.

No its not weird. It happens all the time.

I could have written this post ad I'm in the exact same situation! We are doing father/daughter dance but no mother/son dance.

Good to know its not as uncommon as I thought! Glad I'm not the only one in this boat!