"Parent - Child" Dances...

Following.

Of course it's okay!

I'm not having any except for the one that I do with my son. But...I know FMIL wants to dance with FH, so I have to figure out how to do that without me dancing with my father.

What about doing a bridal party dance with their SOs and you with your FH? Then dancefloor will be a bit more crowded taking the attention off just you? Maybe start it with your FMIL and FH? She may say she doesn't care right now, but I would think that if she doesn't 5 years down the road she would regret it...

Totally ok. i don't have a dad but a friends dad who has been great to me is walking me down the aisle. FMIL is flaky and sucks and may not even show up, so we will probably skip the dances with "parents" if she shows up, we will do a joint dance just so she can't say we deprived her of it and i will dance with Bob, my friends Dad.

It is absolutely ok to skip the dances. Both my DH and I agreed that we did not want the traditional dances and our wedding reception was high energy and super fun! No one missed them....

@Janeen - I was really excited when she said she didn't mind either way, I didn't want people to think I had like issues with my dad or something. Maybe have a special slow song for everyone to dance to?

@Maltese - The first dance I don't mind, it'll be while people are eating and waiting in line for food....haha. And yeah, I'm gonna leave the option open and see if she mentions it to me and her tone about it....she has 3 sons...

Totally ok not to do these, just like it's ok to skip other "traditions" like the bouquet and gater toss.

I'm not going to be doing them at all because of my messed up family situation. Even if it wasn't so weird, we aren't a close family and are definitely hands-off so there would be no dancing.

@Miss to Mrs- My thought exactly! As a guest I only look forward to the couple's first dance.... I also just do not understand the point of them.....

@Donna - Thanks that makes me feel better about it!!!

@Andi - I might keep an open mind the day of now that you mention that and add it in if she changes her mind and keep a song in mind for just my dad....

@Jess - We are skipping those as well! FH was a little suprised I wanted to X the bouquet toss, but I didn't want to pay for a toss one and hopefully preserve mine. Also, poor single people getting called out....no no.

My FMIL wants her moment with her son. I don't want to showcase the fact that I don't get along with my dad. lol I guess I'm going to tell the DJ to do one anyway and act like it was impromptu. I got nothin. lol

Of course it is ok! I am only having my dance with my FH. No "parents" dances for us.

We skipped parent dances - I have no parents and so we decided not to put any focus on parents at all that day. We did do a dance with our daughter in place of (which ended up mostly being a mommy daughter dance as she was tired and doesn't like daddy when she's tired, haha)

It's your day for the two of you to do whatever you'd like! If you don't want the dances, don't have them!

I can say though, that as someone who is super shy and often falls apart in front of crowds, the first dance with DH was a piece of cake. At that point you're mostly used to all eyes on you all day and you're riding that high. DH was really the only person in the room at that point for me. I didn't even notice anyone watching

@Janeen - I think if you dance with your son no one will notice there wasn't a father-daughter, and that would be the cutest! I'd rather see that than a father-daughter any day, what a sweet moment for you and your son!

@Munkos - So cute!

Thank you for that encouragement, I needed to hear that haha *stops breathing heavy into a paper bag over social anxiety*

Of course its okay to skip these things! This is your wedding. If you and your FH are happy that is all that matters. You don't have to do something just because it is tradition.

I totally wanted to skip the parents dance, but my MIL wanted to dance with my husband. Okay fine. So they danced together and my step-dad and I danced together at the same time to the same song.

You can do, or leave out anything that you want! I don't like being the center of attention, nor does DH, so we did not do a grand entrance with our bridal party. we came immediately to the dance floor instead then took our seats. the father-daughter dance was important to my dad so we definitely did that. DH did not do a dance with his mom, opted for a dance with his 11 yr old daughter instead. they joined me and my dad on the floor, along with all father-daughter's in the house. which was actually a lot!

It doesn't matter, there is no requirement for every wedding. it is your own

@Gamecock......I really like that idea, keeping it in my back pocket!

Thanks HEH! We danced to "you're gonna miss this" Mostly because of the line "I got two babies of my own, one's 36, one's 23" My sister and I are 13 years apart and my husband and his sister are 14 years apart.