Paper RSVP vs. Online RSVP

We're doing website only. It's a gamble because some people (older aunts/uncles) are not tech savvy and won't go online. We're planning to call those people or have their children RSVP for them.

I've seen separate invites for rehearsal dinners. I recommend going that route - rather than stuffing an additional card in the wedding invitation.

We're giving the option for both. Some people, particularly older, may not be tech savvy.

I am doing the website route and I am regretting it. The older people invited to the wedding are having more of a difficult time RSVP ing than anticipated. We gave them the option to call, but instead they all are trying to RSVP on their own and leaving info out. I would recommend doing paper RSVP whole heartedly.

We're giving the option for both but haven't had a single person RSVP online beyond my mom when she tested the process.

Our wedding is older so we are going the paper route. My mom couldn't figure out the online RSVP process for a wedding she is invited to in July. If she can't get it I can just imagine how bad everyone else on our list will struggle

We had both options. Only 1 person used our wedding website to rsvp. I would send separate invitations for the rehearsal dinner. The guest list should be much smaller than for the actual wedding.

Paper 1000%. My favorite part of getting RSVPs back is seeing so many folks have handwritten comments wishing us well. I'm definitely going to save them.

We're having both. Our parents age group will more likely mail the rsvp back but I know our friends will rsvp online. However, since we haven't finalized the menu (DW and havent done a tasting yet), we will have our reception meal choices online only.

A few years ago we requested online responses, through our wedding website. We heard from 248 of 250 invited guests 10 days before our due date. Even my then 87 year old grandmother, with minimal computer skills, was able to do it.

We included one, insert card, with our website, response date, 3 entrée selections, and our wedding e-mail address for "Late responses and dietary requests."

We had a very formal wedding, sent formal/boxed invitations, so the request was not for budget reasons. After doing a lot of internet research and finding out how few of those cards/envelopes/stamps get returned, we wanted to eliminate waste, and we did.

We've been invited to around 25 weddings, over the last 5 years and the majority of those have requested online responses. The least formal of those weddings, and those with the smaller budgets (as evident through guest hosting) were the ones to waste money on response cards.

We haven't sent our invitations out yet, but we are doing online only. We included our website on the Save the dates and we already have 23 people that have RSVP'd. Eliminates waste as most do not reply with response cards.

I did online only. Most of my guests are younger than 60 and the ones that were older I know use the computer for email or Facebook so I thought they could all handle it. I had 190/315 who had not RSVP'd on our date. I had to call all of them and it was awful and took forever. Some people I contacted said they had trouble with it and it wouldn't take their names, but went in and did it pretending to be them, I had no trouble at all. Others just didn't RSVP, maybe thinking that they didn't have to since there was no card to send back? Even though I included a card that said where and when to RSVP. However, those that actually did do thought it was awesome and so convenient.

If I were to do it again, I would do both options.

We are having two different RSVP cards made, about 30 of one and 70 of the other.

We will be sending out a mail option (with the option of going online) to the older guests and everyone else will get an online rsvp.

Love my rsvp online! No problems so far and about 60 guests (30 couples) have gone online successfully already.

Also I get to see comments online from guests which is fun!

We're doing website only.

With the online RSVP, how did you deal with the plus ones, vs whole families? Was going to add my own forum, but saw that this was similar.

We did online and our phone numbers as another way to RSVP. Its worked for the most part. Its allowed me to keep track of everyone and the seating chart changed with every decline (their names removed from the seat).

@Ariel - Our wedding website (wedding woo) allows us to add guests to a single reservation, which is searchable by the guest inputting any name under that reservation. Thus, if you input John Smith, it also hows the reservation for Mary Smith and Alice Smith OR it shows that John Smith can input a reservation for an unnamed guest (e.g. the plus one). I think whether you have this functionality would depend on what program/website you use. I would definitely recommend wedding woo.

For those who did both online AND paper, did you find it ended up being twice as much work in order to set up both procedures and then cross-reference the RSVPs into a common template?

We're planning on doing both. A lot of FH's side is older, he's one of the youngest besides the cousins children. It'll be easier for them to RSVP that way but we're also using the website for those who are pretty tech savvy & would prefer to RSVP that way.

We used paperlesspost.com

Some people have had trouble, but for the most part it has worked great. It's also awesome for keeping up to date on how many people have RSVPd, who have opened it, and who hasn't seen it at all. You can also schedule reminders.

We're doing RSVP via email, set up a special gmail account for it. I'm honestly not sure how it's going to go (very well may be a nightmare). Invites are going out tomorrow, so we'll see!