Overwhelmed!!

I'm totally overwhelmed. I think it's natural. I'm getting married next month and have a ton left to do. My brother had a stroke last week and my fiancee has had two hospital stays at the same time so obviously wedding planning came to a screeching halt. Back at it now, but with zero help from anyone. I have most of the big things done too, but so many little things that add up

I think it’s normal to feel stressed and overwhelmed at times. You and your FH have a lot going on it sounds like and so that doesn’t help stress levels. I will tell you that I dread getting on the phone with anyone for fear that they will ask how wedding planning is going or if this is done or that is done—especially the guest list! My FH and I are currently at an impasse and I literally have anxiety and fear over what’s going to happen and I don’t want a familial blow out or for Groomzilla to rear its ugly head. Ugh! Anyway, take a deep breath first of all. Do you have a DOC? Your DOC will help you with day of logistics, might be able to offer some advice with regards to decorating, and help you pull everything together so that removes a bunch of stress off your shoulders. Do you have any friends or family who enjoy decorating and can help you pull some nice ideas together and/or help you decorate when you get there before your wedding? It might help if these people can visit the venue with you so they can get a good look at the space for ideas. My FMIL, Mom, etc will be at the venue with me the day before helping to set up decorations and put everything together.

I had a complete meltdown a couple of weeks ago. Literally bawling for no good reason. My FW made me list all the things that had me stressed out. If it was valid we found a solution to solve it, if it was just hysterics we tossed it. If it needed to get accomplished we put it on a list where we could both see and have already taken care of half the list. Her number 1 thing is that something we should be excited to celebrate not cause that kind of stress. She is much more chill than I prefer sometimes, but in this case she is so right. We have contingency plans for just about everything so I feel much better knowing that we can do anything if we're together.

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I'm so sorry you had to go through all that. I hope all is well now.

First, what you're feeling is normal, second it sounds like you need new bridesmaids. They're are supposed to be supportive and helpful throughout the process. Maybe find a DOC that will help on the day of, so that relieves some stress.

It can definitely feel like a lot to do and that the list of things to do just doesn't end but believe me when I say one at a time and it'll all work out ! And take a breather when ya need

Yes i am very stressed as well! If it’s not the bridesmaid tht questions everything like you don’t know what you’re doing to the straggler bridesmaid who barely responds & does everything last minute! My best friend of 15 years was going to be a bridesmaid but she never went to try on her dress, so we argued and now she’s not in the wedding anymore. Then ppl think they can add people to their rsvp to ppl complaining about the prices of suits...should i say more?! Lol but let the show go on!

I totally know the feeling! I'm 94 days away! For the "day-of" timeline we asked for help from the officiant and the photographer. If you have the big stuff done, break all the little stuff down into weekly to-do lists. It worked wonders for me and FH! Don't make the lists too long tho - only one thing a day. Can FH not help at all? I get to give my FH his list on Sunday, then don't ask until Saturday and see what is left. I'm not getting help from bridesmaids and family. Breathe through it! You can do it!

I get married at the end of the month and I have to say this is the most relaxed I've been about wedding planning except for right after the proposal and during the holidays. I've just kicked up my feet at this point. But, I also had a panic attack this last weekend about it. It's very normal to feel overwhelmed - I've felt that way for months now up until yesterday. Just remember to take a deep breath and potetnially take a shower/bath with Bath & Body works aromatherapy line (Stress Relief kind will help). If you have the money - go treat yourself to a 30 massage and/or spa facial. I did that a month ago when I was overwhelmed and it really reset me. Which reminds me - I should schedule another 1 before I go on my bachelorette party.