Overwhelmed and just want to elope now. Flowers? i could careless. Decor? i could careless? Am i not cut out for wedding planning?

Prioritize. Prioritize. Prioritize.If flowers and other decor aren't important to you, don't let them be. At this stage, there is no way you should even be thinking about flowers anyhow.

Establish your budget, develop a tentative guest list, find a venue that you will accommodate the number of people who absolutely must be present, and work from there. If you don't care about the details, hire a coordinator, or book an all inclusive venue.

Wedding planning is only as stressful as you let it be.

BREATHEEEEEEE! ❤
I dont care about a lot of the wedding planning but celebrating with our families was big deal to my FH. So we went with an all inclusive venue instead so I dont have to worry about it! I also just did my hair and makeup trial today and I literally told them to go crazy 😂 "do you want a french braid or a waterfall braid" like lady! I dont even know what theyre called!! 😂
But if you feel like eloping in Vegas and having a dude dressed up as Elvis performing your ceremony, that is absolutely fine! Or maybe you wanna go up a mountain with 20 of your closest friends as witnesses? Go for it! OR you just wanna go to the courthouse and get it done in 15min? You do you!!
At the end of the day, you're married to the love of your life, and thats what its all about 😊

If you're ok with a small guest list (ours is 30) I'd look into elopement packages. We still get a photographer, flowers, cake etc but the details are less overwhelming. I sent the planner 4 pictures of bouquets, 4 pictures of cakes, she sent the list of flavors and we picked from that. Done!

Don't worry. There are a ton of options between big, white wedding and weekend in Vegas. There are a ton of great elopement packages, in cities across the country where you show up in a dress and they take care of the rest. Or if you want to have more of a family gathering and less of a wedding, you can do that, too.

I am not a party planner. We decided to do a destination wedding where i have limited options and i found it significantly less overwhelming. Or you could hire a wedding planner!

There is definitely other choices. I considered elopement long before my engagement. Once engaged and how I saw my mom react, I knew she would be devastated not to be there. So I decided to include people I think would be upset not to be there and who I also would want there. This resulted in a guest list of 10 people. This made planning so much easier. I got a budget under $5,000, I picked a venue that takes care of decorations and flowers. Everything I plan is stuff we care about.

It was a good stress reducer. It also made planning a wedding in 6 months very possible.

This stuff is not fun. I love planning parties and hosting things and am super detailed oriented but wedding planning is miserable. Decide what you like/dont. Be firm about it. Get help. Delegate. Dont pinterest. I wouldn't even search on this forum or website until you and you fiance sit down and decide how you see the ceremony and reception.

We picked a venue that was all inclusive. Didn't need decorations and include some basic candle centerpieces. They asked me if I wanted to upgrade to flower ones and have a consult with a florist - I laughed at them. To me flowers are the biggest waste of money - I will have a small bouquet from the grocery store and that will be the only flowers involved in the wedding at all. Don't be afraid to be like 'I don't care about flowers' and therefore don't get them. Do the wedding that is you.

I didn’t either. Just not necessary. Elope and spend the time on vacation.

I can, and I did and we eloped. Not in Vegas, but close to home. Had 7 of us there plus hired photographer. Went to a nice dinner after. Best choose we ever made!!
Tip: there still is some planning you have to do, but it's a lot less stressful because you are only thinking of what is best for you and FH, not all the guests. Good luck

Only you know if you really want a dream wedding. I never had a wedding (we went to the JP) but there have been times I regretted it. On the plus side, no stress or debt--we got to dive into marriage without the whirlwind stress of bills, thank yous, and hangovers. On the downside, we upset a lot of friends who wanted to celebrate us, and we didn't get any $ or gifts. If u don't have a wedding, you will end up second guessing that decision at times, but only you can evaluate what's most important to u.

I think you should weigh up how important it is for you to celebrate with your friends and family. If it's not that big of a deal, then definitely elope- why spend so much money if it's not important to you? And no matter what your budget is, it still will be expensive for a party, and it seems the best ways to save you have to be really involved and do a lot of it yourself, which doesn't sound like that would be up your ally. Possibly elope and come back and throw a more casual celebration party?

If celebrating with everyone is a big aspect for you, perhaps look into your budget and see if you can get a planner? Or take out of the things you don't care about, like flowers, and put towards a planner.

I also got engaged 4 weeks ago and am beginning to feel the same way! With all the money it costs too.. it just seems blah to me. We did all the beginning steps, set a budget, made a tentative guest list, and I’m just getting over it. I want a dress and bridesmaids and my family to be there but I don’t see the point in paying so much for everything that’ll be over in a day. But I’m going to continue to visit venues in hopes I just find one and a spark happens!