"Overthinking the Dress"

Take some time to step away for a little bit from dress shopping, you're a year out so you have time to find the one you are looking for. I tend to assume that most people have that feeling of "settling" for a gown but in the end if you feel beautiful in it and like a bride I'd say go with it!! Good luck!!

Yeah, I don't want to "settle" - I'm in love with the back of a designer gown, within my budget, love everything about it except the damn front neckline, which can't be altered into the neckline I want. Jeez. The back is everything I want. I have about 3 months tops to choose. I will likely be ordering from a designer (they say it can take up to 9 months).

I was not able to find anything like what I wanted - long lace sleeves. So I bought a simple strapless and worked with a seamstress to design my dream gown. I didn't have my 'I love this dress' moment until all of the alterations were completely done. I'm so glad I didn't settle. If you can't find what you want, altering or designing your own is the way to go. I worked with Alffred Angelo to do this

I tried on 64 dresses. I found one online that I loved and tried to find a place that carried it. After a few stores I gave up and decided just to try and find something similar. By the 7th or 8th store they actually had my dream dress as a sample and I tried it on and was so happy with it! I however still wanted to make sure that it was perfect and took a couple weeks to think it over and consider all the other dresses I tried. I think it's okay to really think about it, I'm a super logical person, I didn't really go based on a feeling, I rarely make decisions based on emotion. There are a couple dresses I tried that I would have loved that I still think about sometimes (I even had a dream last night that I decided to get one of my runner ups as a second dress) but I definitely have no regret. If you find one you love, still sleep on it I think if you can.

What is the dress that you are obsessed with the back? There has to be a dress that fits what you want!

Mikaela (Paloma Blanca sister company? I think) Style #1812 ... maybe I will post a pic

Don't settle. Choose a dress you love and feel beautiful in. Like you said the neckline can be altered.

I was having doubts yesterday and then my dress came in and when I picked it up I loved it. Its hard to remember how you look in something when it takes 9 months to get it back.

@Happy In Hawaii 64 dresses!?!, I don't know how u did it. I was frustrated After 4/5 dresses, not to mention hot from squeezing in those samples sizes.

I hope these uploaded. If they do can anyone tell me if it might be possible to alter the front into more of a sweetheart neckline instead of the V-neck? The bridal shop said it couldn't be done.

I hope these uploaded. If they do can anyone tell me if it might be possible to alter the front into more of a sweetheart neckline instead of the V-neck? The bridal shop said it couldn't be done.

Edit: Also, the boning in the breast area didn't look good. The shop said they can take the boning out. Anyone have experience with taking boning out of a dress and how did it look??? Am I overthinking? haha

That's why I stopped looking at dresses and just picked one. Because I knew if I kept looking I would just keep adding more to the choices that I love. They are wedding gowns, you are probably going to love yourself in dozens in them and any of them will do. I don't believe there is one and only one dress for you. So I chose the one I liked the best (after 5 appointments at 3 different shops and probably 30 dresses tried on) and stopped looking. I even stopped looking online and skipping over posts I see about dresses.

Just read the comments. I wouldn't get a dress you want to make a bunch of changes to. Find a similar dress that you don't have to make changes.

I tried on a lot too. I ended up getting a dress that was nothing like what I thought I wanted, lace. I thought I wanted organza. I knew what I didn't want, satin, shiny, puffy, ball gown style. When I brought my mom with me, she was on a whole different page. The other issue I had was, I'd find a dress I liked but, didn't like the beading. I was trying to stay in my budget but, actually spent double. Also, I had odd experiences at different bridal shops. I needed to feel trust with the store I bought at. I found my dress on a mannequin while shopping by myself one night after work. I kept looking at it but, knew it wasn't what I wanted. Then I went back to store with MOH and tried many dresses on, none of which I liked. I kept looking at the mannequin. I finally asked to try the dress on and loved it but, I didn't wanted to order that day. I wanted to wait a month. I couldn't put my finger on it but, I kinda didn't trust the dress shop. A couple weeks later, I found a different bridal shop 30 miles away from home that was having a trunk show for the designer of my dress. I drove up to the shop. They didn't have the dress but told me they'd order it and give me 10% off. It came in 6 months later. I love it. My first fitting is in 8 days and the wedding is 6 weeks from today. So excited!

I'd post a pic but not sure how to:-(

I totally had dress regret but I recently came up with some alteration ideas that have made me more excited about my dress . I wish I would have tried on more dresses and took more time to decide . I let my entourage convince me to buy that day which was a mistake. Take your time.

The 2015 styles are making their way to stores now. Usually bridal stores have a blow out in jan, so they can make room for the 2015 styles.

If I were you, I wouldn't rush to by a gown, you still have 4-6 months of shopping.

You even said, you haven't found what you want. So don't buy.

Ditto to Kathleen! I just said YES to my dress on this past Saturday, but it was a journey. After 5 dress shops, 6 appts., 30-40 dresses, and many e-mails to one very nice boutique, and a pep talk from my sister out of state... I pumped myself up to choose what made me look and feel the best as a bride. I ended up purchasing from a larger shop that I was trying to avoid (similar to DB) because they were the only one who was able to get my dream online dress into their store for me to try. It turns out that it didn't end up being the ONE, but it helped me get it out of my system. So the one they (the big store) helped me find was even better and oh so perfect on me! Trust your insticts!

I'm in the middle of dress regret. It wasnt at all what i was picturing but when i tried it on i loved it. It was tight- but doable. A strapless sweetheart neckline which i did not want! It's also a definite shade of ivory. Now when i picture it i think its too dark and i dont like the thought of the neckline. Plus when i tried it on a second time (bought it off the rack during a sample sale) it was too tight looked/felt awful. That said- i feel like i could've looked forever and never felt 100% its a huge purchase - so its a lot of pressure for one dress to be everything you want. Ugh. Good luck deciding!! I think the fear and even a bit of regret are inevitable. But if its meant to be it will work out!