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Devoted March 2021

Overstepped maybe...

Future Mrs. Cwik, on January 3, 2020 at 11:06 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 9

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So I have three friends that are planning a weekend trip for my “bachelorette” (but not really). One of them is really chill, but the other two have gone into full planning mode. Instead of talking to each other, they talk to me and I’m being the communication liaison between them. “She wants to plan this, you want to plan this” and so on.

Today, I finally broke.
I put everyone in a group chat with me in it under the guise of “I like knowing what’s going on so let’s all talk here” just to save me the stress of back and forth. I already have to find vegan entree options for religious purposes for some of our guests, and I’m having to find a new DJ. My brain is tired.
Felt like an overstep, but I was dying. Anyone else go through this?

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Latest activity by Future Mrs. Cwik, on January 4, 2020 at 4:04 PM

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Alejandra · on January 3, 2020 at 11:10 AM
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I would hardly consider that an overstep. It’s wonderful that they want to plans something special for you, but it’s truly easier for them for talk to each other.
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Future Mrs. Cwik · on January 3, 2020 at 11:11 AM
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It’s so nice yes! But this back and forth has me spun out.
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null · on January 3, 2020 at 11:20 AM
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I don't think you overstepped at all! You've got enough to worry about without having your friends use you as a line of communication when they could just as easily speak to each other. Take a breather and calm your nerves for a minute, the new year has all of us 2020 brides stressing
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Devoted March 2021
Future Mrs. Cwik · on January 3, 2020 at 11:20 AM
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You are so right! Less than three months out and I have to make some adjustments. My stress level is high enough lol!
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Rose · on January 3, 2020 at 12:37 PM
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Def not an overstep you should have done that months ago to save yourself the stress. I put all my bridesmaids in one chat and then they kicked me out to plan the Bach. I haven’t had to relay anything it’s really nice. I do have a sep group chat with them all that I used to coordinate the dresses and such.
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Megan · on January 3, 2020 at 1:34 PM
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Not an overstep--they really should have been communicating with each other this whole time. It actually wouldn't have even been an overstep to tell the bridesmaid individually that, while you appreciate them wanting to keep you in the loop, you really shouldn't be this in on the planning and they all need to speak with one another.

I'd also just take yourself out of the group chat you created to let them go forth in handling things. It sounds like they really want to throw you a party, so it should be a good option.
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Haley · on January 3, 2020 at 2:34 PM
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Deff not an overstep!
I put all my bridesmaids in a group chat as soon as they said yes to being bridesmaids.
My MOH formed another group chat without me in it so they can plan or whatever they do in there.
Sometimes when I text the group chat, they will individually text me back if it's something private (like budgeting or whatever).
Shoulda done it months ago! haha
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Cherry · on January 3, 2020 at 4:59 PM
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Yeah like others said, definitely not an overstep. More like a much-needed retreat. My maids do all their own communicating - the one time they put me in the middle of something I made a decision for them and then nobody was happy so they learned their lesson quick lol. Hopefully your new group chat works like gangbusters! ❤
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Future Mrs. Cwik · on January 4, 2020 at 4:04 PM
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Thanks everyone!!!’
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