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Overseas Bride, Destination Wedding... Bridal Shower or Skip it?

Mallory, on March 30, 2016 at 10:45 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 5

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Hi there I'm struggling with this question from an etiquette standpoint. I'm American but live in Australia with my Aussie fiancee but all my family and friends are scattered around in the US (including all bridesmaids). We have a destination wedding planned for Hawaii in 2017. I would like to have a bridal shower (my mom / sister would host) but the only opportunity to have it would be the day after we have a large Saturday afternoon engagement party at my parent's home in the US later this year, OR a few days before the wedding when everyone is in Hawaii. I am nervous it would seem 'tacky' or like 'too much at once' to have a bridal shower literally hours or days apart from another wedding-related event. If it helps, we plan to do the bachelorette party in Hawaii a few nights before the wedding. Would you have the bridal shower after / before one of the other events, or skip having one altogether? Any input is highly appreciated! Thanks!

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Latest activity by Nancy Taussig, on March 31, 2016 at 10:57 AM

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LoLo.P · on March 30, 2016 at 10:54 PM
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I wouldn't do one in Hawaii personally. It does seem close to the wedding plus, how would everyone get their gifts there and even worse how would you guys get them all home?! Seems like that'd be a lot in shipping. Which I guess you'd have to do either way but would you want to deal with that in addition to everything else right around your wedding?
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Mallory · on March 31, 2016 at 12:51 AM
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Thanks for the feedback @AlmostPrang! Bringing the gifts back isn't really the concern; we typically travel with 2 50lb suitcases each (free with international flights anyway) and expect most guests would know not to give large gifts since I live abroad. I'm more worried about it seeming overwhelming for my female friends to have an engagement party Saturday and bridal shower brunch the next day all in one weekend and having that be too much. Really appreciate the input!
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Jen D. · on March 31, 2016 at 12:54 AM
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Normally I'd say it's too much in a weekend, but given the circumstances I think if you did the shower when you do the engagement party you'd be ok. Yes it might be a lot but people will understand the reasoning.
I've got one BM coming in from Scotland and we're trying to do things when she's home so she can be part of some of it.
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FutureMrsBrittanyR · on March 31, 2016 at 12:57 AM
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If you have somewhere to keep the gifts, it would be (in my opinion) appropriate to have the bridal shower when you are in the states for the engagement party. But I would definitely not have it in Hawaii.
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Nancy Taussig · on March 31, 2016 at 10:57 AM
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Instead of an engagement party, have a couples shower here in the US.
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