I can’t help but be eager to plan our wedding and all of the details that will go into it. I’m not sure if now is a good time and I’m so weird and insecure about talking wedding talk with my girls😐I know I shouldn’t be but I just feel annoying talking about the big day. Is there a certain etiquette regarding wedding planning talks with your girls in the wedding? I am thinking about waiting for the new year to gain a couple months first, let everyone recuperate from the holidays🤷🏽♀️I think I’m over thinking it but I can’t help it. I always said my fiancée is so selfless and considerate of others-not that I never am but she’s definitely rubbed off on me and it’s intensified ☺️
My advice is to not talk about your wedding/wedding planning all the time and make sure to also talk about them/how they’re doing, and all the regular things you would talk about. Always come from a place of gratitude because your girls will be spending a lot of time/money/mental energy on your day.
Also don’t feel bad or take it too personally if they don’t seem as happy or as excited all the time about your day. I’m sure they are happy and supportive, but no one is going to get as excited all the time about your day as you. It’s your day, but for most everyone else it’s just another nice day. Some days your girls will be all on your hype train, but some days you might not get all that energy and it’s okay. They’re still your besties!
I recommend talking with your bridesmaids only about what they are directly involved in (choosing bridesmaids dresses, timelines for day of, hair/makeup options, etc). It's totally fine to let them know of other plans as well (booking vendors, food tastings, etc), though I usually suggest limiting those discussions for a couple reasons:
1. Having too many opinions (especially if they're all different) can be very frustrating. At the end of the day, you and your fiancee get final say on all those plans, so I would keep those plans mostly between you and your fiancee.
2. I tried to limit my wedding discussion to my bridesmaids since I didn't want them to feel like we only ever talked about my wedding. I wanted to make a point to not discuss it (and a lot of the time, it was nice to not have to answer a billion questions about my wedding plans to people!), and instead continue on the friendships just as they had been prior to the wedding. Obviously, if they ask about the wedding, it's totally fine to share whatever details you're comfortable with! But I definitely wouldn't talk about it all day/every day. Be sure to mix in some conversations about how your bridesmaids are doing, and ask about what's going on in their lives.
I agree with others. Try not to only talk about it all the time. I had the same feelings as you until a friend told me it was weird I wasn’t talking about the wedding. So now I try to bring it up a little more, especially if someone asks or if something funny happens.
I had a long engagement (2+ years by the time we said I Do) and was very detailed, organized, and ahead on all my planning (we had all of our vendors hired and details figured out within the first year). That being said, I only talked wedding when I was directly asked about it or if it was an important piece of information that my family needed to know. I also didn’t ask my bridesmaids to be in the party until about 8 months out and only sent them one text about dresses 6 months out. I know you’re excited, but remember that while this is one of the most important days of your and your fiancée’s lives, it’s just another day to others. No one will ever be as excited about it as the two of you. Keeping wedding talk to a minimum will help to ensure your loved ones don’t get burnt out prior to the day.
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This helps alooootttt!!thank you so much!! I most definitely make a conscious effort to also talk about their lives and anything going on that’s important to them. I don’t ever want to come off self absorbed. But you’re so right, they’re not going to always be as 100% hype as me and that’s totally okay 👌🏽 🙌🏽♥️
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Those are good points too! Thank you! I appreciate all the advice and suggestions 🙂I will be sure that I talk about things that actually involve them directly. One of my friends asks a lot of questions and that’s helpful to me and not feeling like I’m telling her things she doesn’t care about. Thanks so much 🙌🏽☺️♥️
I think being excited and talking to you’re friends about it is completely fine and normal. Now, I wouldn’t let that be the only thing you guys talk about, but mentioning milestones in planning is to be expected. If you feel like you want to talk all things weddings, this forum is a great place for that! All of us here loving hearing about wedding and offering advice if we can!
I found that having 1-2 people to talk with regularly who are excited for it and also bring it up in conversations is nice! But also keep in mind to ask about & discuss things going on in their lives. 😊