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Happily Ever Anderson
Just Said Yes July 2020

Over It! Or... Am I?

Happily Ever Anderson, on July 17, 2020 at 2:31 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 6

I'm just going to vent a little here because if you aren't a bride you won't understand and really, there are far greater things to worry about these days than my canceled wedding right? Hello COVID! But, I am bummed. I mean, down right sick to my stomach everytime I think about this situation - bummed. I honestly have no idea which direction I want to take. Everytime I start thinking about everything I just get sad. I know it's stupid. After all, it's just a wedding ceremony right? But I was really looking forward to it. I dreamt of this what seems like forever. I am 45 years old and I swear I thought I'd die single at one point. So to find someone who is essentially my best friend and be able to have a nice wedding ceremony in St. Lucia ... would've been the stuff that dreams are made of. We had a spectacular room, first class flights - all paid for! And now.... nothing.

Back story - this would've been my second marriage. My first, I was young and really had to idea what I was doing. My ex found a JOP online who met us in our living room and married us. We didn't even tell anyone for months. I can't even remember how many years I was married and I could never even remember the anniversary date. I vowed, as I matured, to never do that again....

This time however, literally, this man is my best friend. While most were close to killing each other during shut down times, we were reveling in the time we had together. This time, I was going to be a "real" bride. I was going to have all the experiences that I didn't get before, the parties, real wedding invitations, on the beach in beautiful St. Lucia and of course, the dress!!! We even had a hashtag... #happilyeveranderson.

Anywho, right before things started to shut down, we decided to marry. We thought, if things clear up before July, we could still have our wedding and no one would be the wiser. Literally the day before the county office shut down, we had a JOP meet us in the park with my MOH and her BF as witnesses and married. I want to be clear, marrying him, absolutely no regrets. The steps however, felt vaguely familiar and in a not so good way. As the days went on, it became painfully clear we'd have to cancel. Sucks. Just, sucks!!! But, we decided we'd do a wedding photoshoot with just him and I in our wedding best and send out announcement cards on our planned 7/25/20 wedding day. But we are in Texas, one of the new hotspots and quite honestly, if it isn't absolutely necessary (i.e. food) I really don't want to leave the house.

So, I said all this to say.... I'm OVER IT! I'm just going to send some generic announcement cards using a picture we took at the park and move on with my life. I would love to plan something for our wedding anniversary but let's face it, planning anything at this point is a huge risk and I cannot take anymore disappointment in this area.

I'm not even sure why I wrote all this. I guess I just needed to get this off my chest. Maybe someone else needed to see they are not alone in this type of fiasco. Lord knows I've been googling stories; trying to get rid of that "i'm the only one going through this" feeling.

Good luck to all those who are holding out hope or who were creative enough to find another way to keep the party going and I pray health, happiness and loving marriages for all.

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Latest activity by Cassie, on July 17, 2020 at 7:54 PM
  • Caitlin
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    Awe, you're not alone! Many, many other brides (including myself) are going through this. My hubby and I were high school sweethearts, got married at 18 with a very tiny, intimate wedding with only our closest family and friends, and the wedding were currently planning is the wedding I've always dreamed of. We essentially decided to have another because I wanted to experience the typical bride experience with my guests, so the whole point of this huge wedding were having is for our guests to be there as they didn't all have the opportunity to do so the first time around. With that being said, I feel your pain and stress 100%. Again, I'm already married and am only having another celebration for my guests. If mine gets messed up, I'll be devastated because this wedding revolves around my guests being able to come rather than my husband and I coming together as we already married. You are definitely not alone! I see brides post similar things on here all the time. These times are so uncertain, especially for us COVID brides, and it's important to overcome all of this together as a community. Try to enjoy this crazy process. I'm wishing you and your husband the absolute best of luck with tons of love, comfort, and prayers! ❤️
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  • Happily Ever Anderson
    Just Said Yes July 2020
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    I so needed that. Thank you!!!! Same to you Smiley heart

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  • Reena
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    You aren’t alone!


    I’m 36. My fiancé is 42. This is the first marriage for us both, and our original date was also July 25th. It hurts to think we have both watched numerous couples get their day, but when it’s FINALLY our turn this is the hand we are dealt. I also spent years thinking that marriage may not be in the cards for me. Sometimes I get this mind set of “of course this happens during my turn”. Virtual hugs. I’m hoping this will be an entertaining story in 5-10 years.
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  • Cassie
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    I’m right there with ya girl! This definitely has been a nightmare and so unexpected! I have the same feeling, that I always get dealt the bad cards and of course this would happen to us. I have had a lot of crying break downs and phone calls to my mom this week because of all the restrictions our venue is implementing and we we almost made it to our original date when everything shut down. This will be our first marriage for both of us also. We are trying to push through with what we can have right now (30 days to go!) and because we are over all the planning and are thinking about doing a vow renewal later on when all of this is over. I hope you can eventually have your time in the spotlight and yeah it will be an entertaining story down the road!
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  • Reena
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    I hope your day is beautiful. I work at a grad school and our students just came back. A few got married during the pandemic. They have all stated that their wedding was still wonderful and better than they originally planned pre-pandemic.
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  • Cassie
    Savvy August 2020
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    Thank you!
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