Outdoor winter wedding

I would elope if I were you then, Ashley if you're not keen on pleasing others.

Take your photos outside. I'd be really pissed as a guest for an outdoor wedding in PA in February. I despise cold and snow, despite the blankets. That would be a hard no from me.

"I'm not really one for pleasing others" Wow, that's great. Please make sure to let your "loved" ones know this in advance so that they can opt to withhold the pleasure of attending your miserable wedding or giving a gift.

Can you find a venue that have ceiling to floor windows so that your background could be snowy but you and your guests will be roasty toasty inside of a building?

I would hate that as a guest. I hate to be cold

"I'm not really one for pleasing others"

Lolololololol it's funny 'cause it's true

Don't invite anyone. If you really don't care what people think then you don't need any guests, and if you have an outdoor wedding in February then that's exactly what you're going to get.

Cecilia has more faith in people than she should, I WOULD say it to your face. I don't care if it is your day. I'm important enough to you to be invited to your wedding but not important enough to let me be inside????

Yes. That is crazy. Don't do it. Your guests will think you are out of your ever-loving mind.

I'm 29.... I have rheumatoid...any idea how bad my bones hurt after a few minutes of coldness???? Would I risk my entire body being in that pain because you think I'd be cute to be married in snow??? Hell no.... now double my age, those guests probably will feel the same!

I have a medical condition that means I get chilled and can't warm up with things like blankets and warm drinks. It's actually quite painful. You wouldn't know it to look at me. One of your guests could easily have something similar that makes your dream physically painful for them. Since no well mannered and considerate person would do such a thing to guests, it would never occur to me that in accepting an invitation I was signing up for that level of pain. I would not only take my generous financial gift with me when I had to leave your ceremony in pain, I would be very clear with anyone in earshot why I had to go. Doing this kind of thing isn't cheeky and rebellious and "offbeat", it's rude and cruel. Since you probably aren't a rude and cruel person, why leave you guests, and anyone within earshot in your community, the impression that you are that kind of person?

Sure. Invite two witnesses, who are explicitly okay with being outside in the snow, and have an extremely private 10-minute ceremony. Then celebrate with all your friends and family inside afterwards. Lovely outdoor winter wedding.

Just don't make your guests sit int the ice, sleet and slush for half an hour, because that's a dick move. Remember, your day ends. And if people catch bronchitis after your day as a result of your thoughtless, selfish actions, you may find yourself with far fewer friends once it's all done.

I think if you rented some heaters it could work, plus it could add a really cool feel to the ceremony to have fire surrounding you and your guests. Something classy like this maybe?

In retrospect when I said I'm not one for pleasing others I didn't mean that. Obviously I'm not going to subject my grandmother and preemie daughter to the cold. Defense mode was on and I was being spiteful. A winter ceremony is a dream but not all dreams come true. It'll be beautiful regardless. Pics outside and vows by a fireplace would be just as amazing.

YOU can stay oasis l outside but your guests shouldn't be required to freeze to death.

@OP, you went on defense mode because every single person told you it was a bad idea to make your guests freeze. You're going to do well on the internet.