Out of town kids

You can do whatever you like.

My sil did this, invited her cousin to bring her kids because they were oot but didn't invite my kids (her nephews).

I didn't care but my mom was livid til the day she died.

The reality is they might not want to bring their kids. I've opted to invite children, though I've been told that most people are going to get sitters anyways.

Invite the kids, let the parents decide whether or not to bring them.

If you aren't inviting other kids, I'd say not to invite your cousin's kids.

If they can swing it, they will come.

I am in the same boat.

All of my guests will be traveling anywhere from 2-5 hours for the wedding and I want to cut the majority of the kids. We have decided to invite our siblings kids (so nieces and nephews) and that's it. Besides the flower girl. If our cousins have kids they are not invited. We don't have the room to hold an additional 3-5 kids per family.

(We are not also close with any of these cousins)

We did a straight 21 and up guest list. The only couple with kids who had a lengthy travel also had a full time nanny. They boycotted, and didn't even bother to RSVP, because their kids weren't invited. We had a fabulous time without them.

You can do what you like, but depending on the distance they need to travel, they might decline if the kids can't travel with them and they can't find a babysitter.

Most of my family and FH's family lives 8-12 hours away, so we decided that only kids that are traveling with out of town guests requiring an overnight stay would be allowed at the wedding.

I agree with Sarah, we did no kids except those in the wedding party. CUT and dry. Clean and easy to explain. Its not fair to invite some and not others IMO.

UO, we're doing a version of this. We're cutting off kids at 1st cousins and the children of 1st cousins (since all those first cousins who have kids have kids under the age of 3)...

However...

We have 3-4 kids beyond this circle being invited. 2 are the children of our good friends in our area (It's a pseudo destination wedding that's in my hometown where FH and I don't live) who both FH and I used to babysit (and occasionally still do babysit) who are both under 5. We're very close to them and to their kids. One is my good friend's infant. The final is a 4 year old who is the son of FMIL's friends and former coworkers who just moved to Chicago and have no one there they know well enough to leave the kids with.

I may catch flak from some of the Thanksgiving crowd because I'm inviting all of them but not their kids but honestly am not too nervous about it.

We are doing this. We don't want kids at the wedding, but two of my cousins have small children and live several states away. It would understandably be more difficult for them to find a sitter for several days than the local guests who only need a sitter for the night. So we are only inviting these kids, out of necessity.

We are having a no kid reception and are getting push back from a few family members with kids under 5. You have to just stick with what you want and remember that people will find a sitter for the things they want to do. You can't worry about it anymore after that.

I opted for a kid free wedding but allowed my cousins from out of state to bring their daughters (1 each) because I knew all my family will be here and they would have no one to watch their kids for the time they will be here. Only exception. But it's my wedding and if people don't like their problem not mine my wedding my decisions.

It's up to you but if they decline bc of childcare issues, you shouldn't be upset. Another option is hiring a babysitter for the night to stay with the children at the hotel.

Do not hire a babysitter, it will be a waste of money. No parent is going to leave their child with a babysitter they have never met and don't know.

Invite them or don't. Just understand that if they are travelling out of town, that they may not be comfortable or have anyone that they can leave their children with for an extended period of time.

We have two boys, so there will be a few kids already invited. I just don't want kids over running the wedding. They're are my second cousin's kids. I think I will invite them and let them decide.

However, we are doing 18+ after 9pm, so the adults can enjoy themselves as well. Thank you guys!

We are only inviting our niece and two nephews (one is an infant). My cousin's kids weren't invited and he was fine with it. They are 8 and 5. One of my oot friends didn't have someone to watch his daughter so I helped him find a local babysitter (someone I have met and trust).

We have 4 kids at the wedding. Our 2 boys (6 and 11), our niece is 13 months and flying from BC and my bff/bm son is 3 1/2 and they are coming in from LA. My friends are all local so they have family/regular sitters then can rely on.

View Quoted Comment My sisters daughter getting married my niece . We have a brand new granddaughter and we live in Atlanta I have two kids one with the baby . Wedding up North just found out by accident that no babies are allowed by little one will be over 1 by then. We have family traveling from all over . I think it’s in bad taste not to have proper arrangements and to leave out our newest member of the family . Venue and hotel
Are very far away . I’m old school on this weddings are for families to come together and witness this special day . It’s not a Hollywood Golden Globes Production as I see on instagram . I gave two weddings and would never put that decision on a close family member . It’s a very selfish stance . Remember there are lots of things that could go wrong on that day children add a wonderful element . Unless you absolutely hate children .