Out of town guests with kids?

Well does your FH want kids invited or not? It isn’t only your wedding. I think it’s fine to have a child-free wedding (though usually infants are the exception as moms are the way babies are fed) but you can’t have your cake and eat it too. You both have to be ok with the decision and you both have to understand that it’s possible people will decline because their children aren’t invited.

I think it's ok to decide that you don't want kids at your wedding. However, there are usually a few exceptions to the "no kids" rule. The first is that nursing newborns/infants are an exception. You can't ask a nursing mother to leave her infant at home, especially a 4-month old. But I can assure you, a 4-month old baby will not bother anyone. In fact, I'd bet money that you won't even know he's there. He'll probably sleep through most of the festivities.

As for the 3-year old wild child, I would try to help his father find some child care for that evening, since he'll be in town all week. You could make an exception for him, but you said he's wild, and clearly you don't want him at your wedding. You can hire a babysitter to go over to his hotel room and hang out while dad is at the wedding.

But you should prepare yourself for some people to decline when they find out their kids are not invited.

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He doesn't think kids should be invited either -- he just doesn't want to deal with the conflict with his cousin. Baby is not being breastfed so not worried about that.

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Thanks for your comment! I definitely wouldn't ask his aunt to leave a newborn at home, I just don't know how to approach her with it.

I guess child care seems like the way to go for the 3 year old. Thanks again!

Ask your venue for a prefered vendor (babysitter). Ours offered up a few names!

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That is so helpful! Thank you!

I would look into hiring a babysitter as Jennifer said! However, keep in mind that some parents might not feel comfortable leaving their kids with someone they don't know!

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WIll do thanks for the advice!

I agree with PPs! Babysitter all the way! Even offer to buy the kids a pizza or something like that to enjoy with the babysitter, they'll have so much fun mom and dad can feel guilt free enjoying their night off!

Typically newborns don't qualify under the "no kids" rule since they have to be with their mother frequently. I'd just have your fiance tell his friend in advance, so he can plan or tell you if he won't go.

I'd also look into a babysitter. But from experience you need to address this sooner rather than later. My cousin had her wedding this past summer and invited the family and then like a couple weeks before her wedding I found out, not from her either, that she wanted a no kids wedding. Which is fine do you, but I was coming in from out of town with my own family ( I have 2 kids) and didn't have anyone else to watch them. She ended up changing her mind like a week before her wedding and honestly I was so over it by then I just didn't go. So my advice would be to let them know about your no kid wedding and if your going to try to get a babysitter soon so they can plan accordingly.

We offered to provide childcare services for those with children younger than our age limit. You do usually have to make an exception for breastfeeding infants though.

1) infants are the exception to the “no kids” rule


2) Maybe offer to pay a babysitter as a gift to your groomsman.