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Out of town guests advice

Oceankissed, on March 12, 2017 at 6:21 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 5

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Both FH and I will have about 15-20 out of town guests that we have not seen in person in years (some over 10 years) attending the wedding and reception. We keep in touch with everyone we invited, for these folks it is all online and phone calls. Most have never been to Houston.

Anyway, I am wondering about thoughts on how to spend quality time with these folks (since they are spending lots of money to come to the wedding basically to see us) but still get prewedding stuff done. We are having a mani/pedi party and rehearsal dinner the afternoon and evening, respectively, the day before the wedding. These guests are invited to both. We are debating about doing a brunch the day after the wedding at the hotel. Is this enough? Thoughts?

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Latest activity by CuteNickname, on March 12, 2017 at 7:43 PM

Master October 2017
ambrok · on March 12, 2017 at 6:23 PM
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I think inviting them to the rehearsal dinner is acceptable. If you want a brunch afterwards...that's fine, too. Really a personal choice on how you want to treat your guest & how you want to spend the day after.
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A. L. · on March 12, 2017 at 6:42 PM
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Rehearsal dinner should be more than enough. You're going to be exhausted the day after your wedding.
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Oceankissed · on March 12, 2017 at 6:44 PM
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We are paying for the mani/pedí party (FH and I have a favorite place and we talked to them about a group rate so it is manageable) and we will be paying for the rehearsal dinner - we are paying for the wedding ourselves. To be honest, that is why we are debating about the brunch because of the added cost.

If you traveled for a wedding of someone you haven't seen in person in a long time would you feel what we are offering was enough quality time (we will see them at the reception of course)?
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LoveLoveLove · on March 12, 2017 at 7:27 PM
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Hopefully your out of town guests will appreciate how much has to be done during the days before a wedding and won't demand a lot of your time or feel slighted if they don't get much of it.
I think including them in the mani/pedi and rehearsal dinner is a great way to spend time with them and still get your To Do list completed. Maybe having them over for breakfast/coffee or dinner may work as well - since you have to eat anyway.
As far as site-seeing, I would suggest, providing a list of sites for them to see and negotiating a good rate for their hotel.
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CuteNickname · on March 12, 2017 at 7:43 PM
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It's traditional in FH's culture (he is from a village in Poland) to host a low key day-after gathering at the couple's home, or one set of parents'. Not sure if that's an option for you.

We are inviting family, the wedding party, and out of town guests to come by and relax with us in the afternoon on the day after the wedding. Some have other plans, and that's fine. But others who have traveled a long way to be with us have the option to spend more quality time, if they choose. We will be ordering trays of Italian food from a nearby restaurant and will have beer and wine on hand as well. All of our family will be traveling from out of state, so it made sense to us to provide this option to them.
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