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Just Said Yes July 2009

Out of state wedding/gifts

littlenat797, on January 9, 2009 at 11:22 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 6

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My FH and I live in Colorado but we are having the wedding in California. Is there a polite way to ask people to send our gifts to our CO home so we don't have to get a bunch of gifts shipped there ourselves? How could I put that on the invitation? We registered at Target and Bed, Bath and Beyond so people could shop online and have it shipped directly to CO. I don't want to assume everyone will buy us a wedding gift but we don't to worry about how everything is getting home either. I want to order my invites soon. Help!!!

Future Mrs. Dees

7/12/09

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Latest activity by pianoNYK, on January 19, 2009 at 4:33 AM

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monarchmom · on January 10, 2009 at 7:15 AM
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Did any of your registries have the option of where to ship? Or do you have a wedding website, you could post your preference there. Or just go with word of mouth. Personally we received very few actual presents our gifts were mostly cards with cash or checks which shouldn't be a problem for you to bring home.
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Brian Cookson · on January 10, 2009 at 10:52 AM
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Hello,
When you send out the registration information, just express your wishes to have gifts sent to your home. Most often, this can be done through your family and friends. For instance, someone calls your sibling to see what to get you. Your sibling would then express your wishes. Most will follow your request. Good luck and congrats!
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Kevin Walters · on January 10, 2009 at 11:59 PM
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Slip in a business card that you print out that says something to the effect of... "we would ask that no wedding presents be brought to CA since we will not have enough space to get them back." And then plan a back-up accordingly... Mail anything you get back to your home in CO.
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Vanessa Alce · on January 11, 2009 at 1:02 AM
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You will not want to include that information on your invitation because it suggests that you're expecting a gift. I would create a blog or a website with your wedding information and list it there. Also, if you have a planner, or your mom, MOH or bridal party can help pass the word along that gifts should be sent to CO. On the day of your wedding, your planner will be responsible to make sure that your gifts are shipped or stored safely. If you're not having a planner, then a responsible family member can make sure to transport them back to CO.

Vanessa Alce
Alce Events Inc.
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Dianna Shitanishi, CPCE, CMP · on January 11, 2009 at 6:16 AM
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A website with places you've registered and mailing address would work nicely. The majority of my destination weddings get very few gifts here in Hawaii, if anything, they are usually envelopes for those that didn't have a chance to send something prior to the wedding.
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Devoted September 2009
pianoNYK · on January 19, 2009 at 4:33 AM
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It depends how formal, ie. etiquette-conforming, your wedding will be. Most etiquette guides will agree with Vanessa Alce's comment above, but I have definitely received invitations that include a "please send your gift to..." insert, so it's really up to you
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