Out of state move dilemma- advice?

Obviously your custody terms are completely private, but are you sure that leaving your son behind with his father is the only option? What do you think about moving? Are you happy with where you are? Maybe a different city in Florida would be a compromise?

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Oh if it was up to me I'd be gone 5 years ago. Unfortunately in FL the enact a 50 mile radius law and right now we are in it but we don't have much wiggle room to go very far. He hates florida in general though so not sure if that would make a difference in general... and I'm not sure why he hates it so much honestly so idk there but if it was up to me we would be gone so quick.

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I wish I had more solid advice, but it sounds like you're really stuck between a rock and a hard place. I understand why you're feeling guilty, but it sounds like your FH has his mind made up and you're what he's choosing. As much as he seems miserable with living in Florida, I'd imagine he'd be much worse off living somewhere else without the woman that he wants to marry and the child that he probably has a close bond with.

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This is pretty much what he says I just do feel so guilty. I more so needed to vent because I don't have people I can really talk to about with this kind of stuff because all our friends are mutual friends I just feel guilty involving them too because then they feel they need to hop in as mediators and we don't need a mediator. We have no mean or harsh conversations about this topic hes just sad a lot I guess.

I am in this position with my husband. I really dislike where we live. It's where he's from and where he has always lived. It's hard on us at times. I try to have a good attitude but this area was actually voted to be one of the least happiest places in America in years past. Hahaha. I will stay in this dumpster fire of a town to be with my husband. We've talked about moving and new jobs but we're both tepid people. If he wants to be with you, he will make it work. Trust him when he says he wants to marry you. He knows your limitations. Maybe you guys can focus on finding things you like to do in the area. Get involved in the community. It might help.

This is my situation too, we desperately want to move, but my kids are here... So we stay, even though FH could get a better job, and we would both be happier... Your children are only little for a short while. You will be able to move eventually.

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Ugh. Sorry to hear this.

Here in Illinois it is 25 miles. My friend wanted to move 27 miles with her son and it was a major custody battle. It took 18 months and a lot of money, but it happened and it worked out. Well, dad wanted to pay less money and see his kid less to let her move, and that's what happened. Ultimately, she moved in with her boyfriend with a better job, better pay, house, backyard, the whole nine yards. I really hope you can figure it out. And my heart breaks for you.

H and I moved across the country for my job and H isn't happy about it.

Life is hard. I don't have any solid advice for you, except keep trying to do what's best for all of you and it will work out somehow. Rant away and best of luck with everything.

I have no advice to give, just sending some love to you!