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Out of State Bridal Shower

Katie, on December 27, 2016 at 6:53 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 7

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I currently live in Seattle and my MOH is talking about planning a bridal shower for me back in my hometown in Kansas City, MO. I'm only involved in the planning because it is out of state and I have to plan in advance (time off, flights, etc.). I wanted to see how other brides handled out of state bridal showers and what they did with gifts afterwards? I'm only registered with Zola right now but I know it's going to be a pain/ expensive to try and ship gifts back.

I'm teetering on not even having a bridal shower at all because I know they aren't a requirement and I would hate to have my MOH go through all of that trouble when it honestly isn't a big deal to me. Any advice or alternatives to the standard awkward bridal shower?

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Latest activity by Katie, on December 27, 2016 at 8:29 PM

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Katie · on December 27, 2016 at 7:28 PM
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Unfortunately, no one will be driving to the shower or to the wedding from KC. I was thinking about returning everything but we're registered through Zola so it would all have to be online and shipped anyways :/ I might just make a BBB registry for the shower and return them.
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Meaghan · on December 27, 2016 at 7:38 PM
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Following. I have the same issues. Both showers on east coast. I live in CA. Driving isn't an option.
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Ashlyn610 · on December 27, 2016 at 7:38 PM
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What if you ask for the gifts to be shipped directly to you in Seattle? I've been to baby showers where the parents had it in their hometown and on the invites it asked about sending gifts to their house. We just either printed out a pic of what we got and put it in the card, or wrote it in that way the parents knew the day of the shower what we got
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ForeverYoung5617 · on December 27, 2016 at 7:40 PM
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Following. I have many of the same questions as a NC bride having a shower in my home state of MI.
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MrsSki · on December 27, 2016 at 7:48 PM
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You may end up with fewer physical gifts if guests know your travelling. I went to a shower where the bride had to fly in from several states away and lots of people have her cash because they knew she couldn't fly everything back
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Katie · on December 27, 2016 at 7:59 PM
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My only concern about specifying where gifts should be sent is that it feels "gift grabby". Unless I'm wrong.
My second dilemma is if I don't have any physical gifts to open then I'm not sure what else we should do during the shower. There are only so many awkward ice breaker games and so much small talk to be had.
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Katie · on December 27, 2016 at 8:29 PM
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@OGAlecia Very true! Just making sure I don't get the side eye from anyone while making my life a little easier in the process. Thanks for the feedback!
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