Our wedding planning experience ruined by his mothers side of the family and it wont stop.

She told us she didnt expect to be there nor was paying but now has a problem. I called and left her a message and reminded her none of that side even helped with anything or wanted to be involved other then to complain. These people dont care about us or him and he and I are over it. I will double check in a few weeks to make sure their coming so i dont waist money on food for a sit down dinner. But he really wishes we eloped. They are so no class and low class. They cancelled a so called party for our engagement they were planning because my FH asked how many people were coming and to make sure they had a vegitarian food option. BUT HIS MOM flew off the handle. Mind you this is a month after my sister died unexpectingly.

How sad! I think you need to distance yourselves from them, sounds like a toxic bunch! Could your fiance call her & suggest a sit down meeting with her - you can make one last ditch effort to smooth things over. Express to her how important it is to the both of you that she is a part of your special day but that you can't & won't tolerate anymore negativity from her. Good luck, that's tough & sorry to hear about your sister.

So frustrating!! First of all it's your day, you can do what you want. Second. Having a batcheler party the night before is a recipe for disaster, especially if they drink a lot when celebrating together. We probably won't have the wedding party announced just fh and myself, we are having a small wedding party. The rehearsal dinner can be very simple. We know we want all our oot quest there, and there will be quite a few so we are having a back yard barbecue. It doesn't need to by fancy just a chance for you guys to get together with your loved ones and show appreciation to your wedding party. Just remembered, I went to a rehearsal diner that was pot luck, different but was a lot of fun. Just remember this day is on your dime, if they want or have demands for any part of your wedding, tell them toopen up their wallets

We did the sitdown with her about a month or two ago. Bad thing is she calls everyone and his brother starts calling and complaining and then his cousin who dates his best man. Im sorry but if you ask me about going to rehearsal reaction and I said "its up to you" would mean i really dont care but if you want I can. She has a problem my mom is in it oh well, she is also contributing money. My family is also flying in from another state and staying at hotels and renting cars. His is not. We also find out the other day his nephew is no longer in our wedding as a ring berror. Nothing like short notice.

Us sitting down with them again wont happen. I am done trying. You would think that you want more for your children and for them to be happy. Not from his mother or his brother. Luckily my FH is nothing like these people. My family loves him to death but my family has unconditional love UNLIKE his. We will check in a few weeks to double check who is coming but do it via the sit down food option. But neither he nor I want to deal with them until after the wedding. The whole experience has been ruined start back to Feb of last year and we had only been engaged 1 1/2 months.

I am sorry to hear about that, its supposed to be a fun and exciting time, not a miserable experience. I had some problems in the begining wiht some of my family not liking my fh and didnt agree with us getting married. so I kind of feel your pain. I just flat out told my family(my mother included) that its my life and I am going to marry who I want, and if they dont like it they can feel free to not be a part of it. my advice is to focus on the good, enjoy the rest of your planning and YOUR day! Leave the negative at the door, and dont be afraid to tell the negative people they can feel free to not be a part of it, if they arent going to help make your day special. It opened peoples eyes for me and for the most part they turned their attitudes around! GOOD LUCK!

Sorry to hear you are having such a difficult time in the final days leading up to the wedding. I think you and FH just need to focus on yourselves and try to tune out all the negativity. This is your moment so do not let these people ruin it for you. Good luck and be happy.

Sorry about your loss! I think that you and your FH need to focus on yourselves and the wedding.