Our wedding party is about to drive me insane.

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Yes! I gave my girls so much time, as I literally had their outfits picked out the day after we got engaged (last July) and I was super budget conscious because my MOH is traveling from out of state, and I have a bridesmaid in high school and two in college. So I felt like I gave them ample time. Heck, their dresses are only $35! With 11 months notice I really feel like this shouldn't have been a thing. But hey. What do I know.

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Thank you! That's exactly how I feel.

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Yep. And we could replace them so fast --- I have two younger brothers who would love to be in their spot.

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If you have 5 groomsmen and their suits are $200 each, then you and FH should be contributing $40 towards each of their suit rentals since the groom's suit is free. Otherwise the groomsmen are overpaying for their suits in order to subsidize the cost of the groom's "free" suit. That's how these "deals" work. They've probably realized this, and is likely why they're now complaining about the cost if they were previously ok with it like you've claimed. There are less expensive alternatives for suits. No one wants to be used so someone else can get something for free.

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I see your point to an extent. We're already paying for an entire wedding (yes, we're paying -- not either of our parents) so you bet we'll take anything "free" we can find. Most people I know who've been married take advantage of the same deal. I could be wrong, but I don't think that's uncommon.

200 is not much especially if they were told in advance, and if it wasnt financially doable to them they should have told you in advance. you're not crazy

Our tuxes were a little less than that, but that was with a discount we got for booking at the bridal show. FH and I were worried about the price, but after talking with groomsmen who were recently in weddings they said they paid closer to $200. You definitely gave them fair warning to voice concerns about the price—do you think it’s a money issue for them or they’re just dragging their feet? Either way, I’d have your FH contact them and tell them to get on it ASAP. Good luck!

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I think you gave them plenty of warning, but it doesn't matter who is paying for the wedding, you or your parents because at the end of the day its still your wedding. From reading your other posts on here, it sounds like you were very conscious of the cost of bridesmaid dresses (I think I read $35 for the dress + $20 for shoes), but the groomsman are expected to pay $150 more than that to rent their suits. I would probably be annoyed too if I was forced to spend $200 to be in a wedding when others only had to pay $55 to be in the same wedding. Especially if that $200 was basically subsidizing the suit for the person telling me I had to pay all that money.

Considering they had more than half a year, I think they are being super slack and careless. You are not wrong to be annoyed by this. They knew the terms well ahead of time. You might be able to find a coupon online. Sometimes tux rental places will rent so many then rent one for free. Then you could divvy up the cost and make it a little less for each guy.

View Quoted Comment True, but the girls have a lot of other associated costs that the groomsmen don’t have (hair styling, makeup, etc) that all end up totaling to more. Their outfits are cheaper but that was intentional due to the related costs.

You gave ALL of them plenty of warning to come up with the money for these items. They really have no excuse on not being able to afford these items with more than 6 months advanced notice. My FH will deal with his groomsmen and what they pick out/pay for and I will be working with my Bridal party on their attire. They all will know the estimated cost including alterations before we make a final decision. I'm also giving them a deadline that is well before the real deadline to ensure we can get everyone the correct color and alterations done without last minute stress. Good luck with all this!

View Quoted Comment Yes, hair and makeup have costs associated with them, and if those are services that you are requiring that they have done then you need to be the one paying for those required services. If you are making them optional, then they would pay for them on their own, but it would be their choice and wouldn’t be factored into the cost for dresses. You clearly aren’t making the groomsman attire and parts of the cost optional.

Again, I get why your annoyed and agree that you gave them plenty of time... but you’re also being. Way more considerate with the costs associated for your bridesmaids than the groomsman so I get why they are annoyed and fighting you on it.

I had no idea you could rent all that. Don't they all have their own shoes and belts? Idk $200 isn't terrible I suppose and like you said they knew about it. How hard was it to put away some money each month? That would make me mad too!