"our song" as first dance song, or new song?

Our song is "Say You Won't Let Go" by James Arthur, but I didn't want to dance to it because the melody is a little difficult to dance to. I did however want it incorporated in our wedding, so I found an instrumental version of it and walked down the aisle to it!

Our first dance was to Perfect by Ed Sheeran and Beyonce. That song made me cry! Maybe you can do something like that to incorporate both songs?

We never felt like we had "a song". We did know we wanted our song to be by a specific artist (Ed Sheeran) for various personal reasons. We went through and picked a song we both loved and felt connected to. We ended up picking Tenerife Sea, which we both felt connected too, and loved. I originally wanted to use Lego House but H didn't agree with me. We originally wanted to mash up Tenerife Sea and Can't help falling in love for our friends to sing (we are all professional actors/singers/performers) but 1 half of the couple got cast in a national tour and it was up in the air if he could attend at all or not. So we told them if they ended up coming (they did!) to please not worry about learning MORE new music and to just attend as honored guests.

I don't think the lyrics being "first datey" matter too much. What matters more is that you and your FH agree on the song and both feel a special connection to it. I wouldn't think too hard on if it needs to be a song you are already connected to or not. If you don't pick your "song" it will still have special meaning as will the new song you pick.

Our song is Heaven by Brian Adams which isn’t overly wedding-y but that is what we’re doing for our song because it fits us more than the day. I want everything to reall reflect our whole relationship rather than the day itself but I do love the idea of a new song for a new memory too!

Hello, I had a song picked between my fiancé and I for the longest time before I realize the song is about a long distance relationship. So we found a song we liked together.

We “practiced” slow dancing together, and it was so much fun! We never danced with each other before so I laughed so hard. It was perfect.

At that point I didn’t care what the song was about, I just loved the memory and the joy.

But it is really a personal preference. I’m not putting too much on one song. I mean, will I even remember this song 40 years from now? We picked a song that we liked in this moment now.

We are using our song which is Kiss Me by Sixpence None the Richer. I can't imagine picking a new song lol

No one listens to the lyrics! They are watching you dance

We are doing "The Luckiest" by Ben Folds which has been "our" song. I thought about doing a Frank Sinatra song instead b/c I always had visions of dancing to one of his songs as my first dance, but I think this one is more "us". You could always pick one of the songs as your first dance and then have the other played at some point during the night. That way you get to dance to both!

I think you should use your song if it makes you happy! No one really will care about the lyrics being first datey.

We both love "The Girl" by Dallas Green and considered using it as when we first met FH would sing it to me quite often. The song does have subtle notes of an underlying breakup though plus the pace was a bit hard to dance too.

Instead, we chose "I don't dance" because when I was hounding FH to help pick a first dance song he literally said but, I don't dance. A few days later the song was included on a random Spotify playlist we were listening to and we knew then we had to use it. I'm sure a lot of our friends and family will find it quite funny.

We are doing "our song" which is Why Don't We Just Dance by Josh Turner which is not wedding-y, but it is us-y, so we are super excited! My heart always smiles when I hear it because I know that it is ours! I can't imagine any other song!

What if you did one for the first dance and the other for the last dance of the night?

I totally get where you’re at. My fiancé and I have our first song, Just a Kiss by Lady Antebellum. But the lyrics talk about not messing this up or going too far. We have a son, so they don’t feel like they apply to our lives now. So we picked another song, Thought I Loved You Then by Brad Paisley.

But you do not HAVE to care about the lyrics. Back when it came out, Good Riddance by Greenday was the most popular wedding song. It’s about a breakup. People STILL use it at wedding. Nobody will even notice.

But it is about your feelings around the song you choose. If you both want to pick a song to make a new memory to, go for it!