My FH has a HUGE family that is very close, the main house for all the holidays, and he is frequently spending time at families houses (We are still in college and not living together). His family also is pretty well off, which allows them to take frequent vacations and go out a lot together to more expensive events.
Though this is all very happy and exciting, my family is much smaller and disconnected in a way. I am an only child and though my parents are happily married, my father has many health issues as well as onset dementia which also makes him angry. My mother has a lot to deal with, and last year to a recent tragedy her sister/best friend was murdered. I am truly her only friend and support. Furthermore, though my extended family is a MESS there is still the tradition to get together at my grandparents house for the holidays, which my mother is now in charge of running.
With that background, here's where my issues lies.
My FH isn't used to a dynamic like my families, and I would like him to try and see why spending time with my family (even if it's not as extravagant, fancy, expensive) is just as important as spending time with his. He always seems to dejected and bored and my mom has begun to feel that he is just annoyed by her. He says it's not that, just a different environment, but he doesn't feel he's acting different.
I'm spending Christmas with them in disneyland. My mom was invited to Thanksgiving but can't go because of my grandparents house. He visits his parents every weekend and expects me to come.
It's just so much and so cut off from my family and I don't know what to do.
Sorry this is long and if it's too deep/personal but I've seen and gotten amazing advice on here before so I'd like to try. Thank you for all your feedback.
xoxo Emalee
