Jen
Just Said Yes October 2021

Our best friend is the officiant can he match the groomsmen?

Jen, on June 8, 2021 at 8:14 AM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 9
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One of our best friends, whose wife is my MOH is going to officiate our wedding. Although he is our officiant we really see him more as a groomsmen in our eyes. We want him to be included in the bridal party photos, he is sitting at the head table with us and I never really thought of him not matching the groomsmen but as they are getting fitted and purchasing suits I am learning of all these things I didnt know about suits and wedding etiquette. Can he wear the same suit as the groomsmen and still "blend in the background" of our ceremony pictures. The girls all have different fabric dark green dresses with white converses the guys have a royal blue suit, green tie and white nikes. The Groom will have a blue (matching the suit) vest, green tie and the nikes. My fiance already told our officiant he was getting him the nikes as well (because we see him more as our wedding party than not). Is it okay he matches, or is there any small thing we can do like he doesnt wear a tie to be more at the "officiant attire" level without making him get a different suit or should he have a completely different suit? Thanks!

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Latest activity by Jen, on June 8, 2021 at 12:45 PM
  • Sara
    Expert August 2021
    Sara ·
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    One of our friends is also our officiant and will be in all bridal party photos. He is wearing a matching suit. The only difference is he will be in a bow tie where everyone else is in a regular tie.
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  • SHY
    Master January 2022
    SHY ·
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    I think that's fine!

    Our friend is also marrying us, but he'll be wearing all black. Black suit, black shoes, black shirt, and we're getting him a nice bolo tie as his 'thank you' gift from us. But if you want your officiant to match the groomsmen, then I see nothing wrong with that!

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  • Kari
    Master May 2020
    Kari ·
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    You can dress your officiant however you'd like. If you do matching suits (which I think would look fine) I would consider a slight change to some other part of the wardrobe to distinguish him slightly from the groomsmen but still have everything look cohesive. Some options:

    1) Different tie than groomsmen. Our officiant is a friend as well and both he and the groomsmen (and groom) are wearing floral ties, but the officiant's tie is a different pattern than the groom/groomsmen.

    2) Same color tie but bow ties, with groomsmen in neck ties or vise versa.

    3) Different boutonniere.

    4) Different pocket square.

    5) 3 piece suit vs 2 piece suits.

    6) Suspenders or some other "accessory" that distinguishes the men.

    I think having them in the same suits will help your photos look cohesive, but some other slight change will help distinguish him from being a groomsman without looking out of place.

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  • L
    Lisa ·
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    His role on your wedding is your officiant. They have never matched the bridal party attire. This is no different. Let him dress appropriately.
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  • L
    Lisa ·
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    What would he like to wear, as the officiant?
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  • M
    VIP January 2019
    Maggie ·
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    I think it's fine to have your officiant match your groomsmen, but I would offer to pay for his attire since he is performing a role that is usually paid.

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  • Jasmine E.
    Rockstar May 2022
    Jasmine E. ·
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    It's not required if your officiant is just coming to do the ceremony and nothing else. But since he's also sort of the bridal party, I think it's OK to suggest it. My brother-in-law is our officiant and will be in the photos, so he's coordinating with the other men. You can also give the officiant a boutonnière.
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  • Jen
    Just Said Yes October 2021
    Jen ·
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    He doesnt care at all. He was excited and the first one to schedule his suit fitting.
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  • Jen
    Just Said Yes October 2021
    Jen ·
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    Thank you!
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