Original 2020 Covid brides

Our wedding and ceremony was postponed to January 2022. I have my days where I feel sad which is normal . But I usually look at wedding things to look forward to like invites , things I can diy , and another hair trial lol. Gotta keep positive

My future BIL and his wife decided to cancel. They were originally May 2020, had a tiny ceremony (10 people) in June, but planned for a May 2021 reception. That got postponed Late 2021, and then that was postponed (because about half of the guests would be international, and there way no way for many of them to get to the US this year) and they decided to just cancel. Part of that is that my fiance and I are getting married in March 2022, and my future BIL and fiance's sister was supposed to be 2021, and postponed to May 2022. With 2 sibling weddings 2 months apart, they just kind of gave up on rescheduling. There are days when they are sad, but they are both so relieved to not have to be planning a wedding (for the FOURTH time basically) They seem SO MUCH HAPPIER now that they have officially canceled everything and have both said it feels like a weight off of their shoulders.

We moved ours to Feb 2022 and I am so excited to move forward as a normal wedding! We did change the ceremony and reception venues but I like the new ones better than the old ones and there are no strict COVID restrictions at either venues. We were sad before but now excited that we are moving forward as planned!

My original wedding date was July 2020, and we postponed to July 2022. Initially, I lost quite a bit of excitement for our new date and even just didn't care about the idea of a wedding overall once we postponed, but now that we took some time off wedding planning and picked it up again, we got a lot of our excitement back, and we're so looking forward to our new date!

FH and I talked about eloping on our original date, then having a big reception later. But we were afraid if we did that we wouldn’t be excited about the reception. So ultimately we decided to postpone. I’m impatiently waiting, but still SO glad we made the decision to postpone.

Yep. Its become more about Covid than our wedding. Im grateful we are able to do anything at all since things are getting a bit better but im not even sure im gonna have fun. Im so busy worrying about having the right precautions in place, wondering if i should I wear a mask (and cover the makeup I paid a lot of money for 🙃), worrying people are gonna judge me for doing the wrong thing (again, thanks Covid), so many no RSVPs, no dancing. Its like, whats the point and why are we doing this? The wedding we originally planned for 2020, which we spent 18 months planning, is so far gone I sometimes forget that it almost happened. It feels surreal to think we almost had a normal wedding and now I will probably always feel bitter that we were one of the unlucky few who just happened to book a wedding for 2020

Yup. Feel like this all the time. Giving a final shot on a scaled back event in June, but if its not possible to pull off, we are moving on. I don't like wedding planning enough to do it for another year, I just want to get on with my life. Sometimes things just arent fair, and I've fully accepted that I will never get my dream wedding because of covid.

View Quoted Comment I agree. We have been struggling. We cancelled with our venue today for many reasons, not just Covid. We plan to host something at my parents but it just won’t be the same as what we spent 2 years planning. Ugh we all got screwed and it sucks that one day things will be normal and that first “normal” Wedding we all attend will be difficult. I just don’t even know if I want to pursue a reception because Covid has left such a negative impact.

View Quoted Comment We are trying to do a final event in July and o just cancelled with the venue and don’t even know if I want to pursue this smaller event. I almost just want to move on with life because no matter what we do it’ll never be the same. Just feeling torn.

View Quoted Comment I think I had to let my original wedding dream die and find happiness in a much smaller, much more restricted party. As long as I can have family and wedding party, it feels worth it to me. If regulations change and i can't have that anymore, I'm ditching all of this and moving on and FH and I will just elope.

View Quoted Comment The real kicker for me is that my sister in law is getting married a couple months after me this year and she will likely have a more normal wedding than us because more people will have the vaccine. Shes literally getting married TWO months after. Im happy for her cause i wouldnt wish this on anyone but its probably going to trigger me a little to attend it

I felt that way, but my excitement has been returning for my wedding that got postponed to this May. But only in the last month with vaccinations up and what feels like turning a corner. What I actually wish is that we had not had a huge chunk of money tied up for our July 2020 wedding (it was all planned and ready to go) because there were several vendors in my city offering micro wedding packages with everything included (very curated and amazing looking) for 3 hours of time for it all... and I gotta be honest, if I could have had all my money returned I would have jumped on that micro wedding train in a second. That's my only regret, but honestly nobody could have predicted 2020 and we would have already had a fully planned wedding anyway. I'm hopeful that our May 2021 wedding will be great and we can make the best of it.

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I feel you! I feel like May is such a borderline time to have a wedding with the pandemic. Things are getting better but even 2-3 months later things will probably significantly improve. Your wedding will be awesome, but I understand it could trigger some tough feelings. I am already thinking ahead to when other friends get engaged and get married in the future how the whole lead up to the wedding and wedding will be a lot more than I am experiencing now. Best of luck to you! It will be beautiful!

Our original wedding date was 6/26/20. We postponed the wedding/reception until June 25 of this year, and are keeping our fingers crossed that restrictions will ease by then. Almost everyone should be vaccinated by then, except for the younger children. We actually decided to get married in September 2020 and are just having the reception. If NJ doesn't ease restrictions on dancing at venues (no dancing at my reception!) we are not sure what we are going to do. Postpone again?

After reading through these comments, I don’t feel so alone anymore. There has been so many tears and times where I was so frustrated and just wanted to give up. My original date was May 17, 2020. We postponed. And postpone again then we cancel.


We lost a lot money. Our caterer gave us a credit for our deposit and said to use it within the next 5 years. I honestly have no plans to do a 1 year anniversary celebration or a big reception later. Our florist pretty much left us high and dry.
July 10, is the last time we’re trying this whole wedding thing. This time it’ll be just 20 people. It’s going to happen even if no one shows up.
If there’s one lesson to learn from all this. Skip the wedding. Buy a house and just go on a long honeymoon.

Our original date was March 20, 2020. Everything shut down three days before our wedding. We had a small church ceremony on the original day and were legally married. Our flowers were already ordered so there was no refunding that, but everything else was able to be postponed. My husband is military so scheduling is extremely tight. We are shooting for a ceremony for our vows/reception for the fall this year or on our 2 year anniversary, but if that does not work out, then we will try to get our money back and move on.