Order of bridesmaids/whose standing next to me

Well as you said you don't want to cause any drama, you've already selected a MOh and I believe you chose her for a reason. While you amd your FSILs have a good relationship standing with you on your special day is more important than focusing on the order in which they stand. And since traditionally the MOH stands by the bride, your best bet would be to let it remain that way. Enjoy ur day with your closest and dearest without the drama..good luck!

Nothing says the MOH must stand next to you. Some brides line up their party by height. Some have friends closest to them, then family. Some do the reverse, family beside them, then friends. It may well be that in all weddings you have seen, the MOH is closest, but look at a huge number of weddings, you see a lot of different plans. The only thing that matters is that if anyone asks, and some people ask everything that is none of their business, you have prepared the kind af answer that people will not pick apart. I wanted my Matron of Honor closest, my Maid of honor furthest, and 2 bridesmaids in between. Because that is how I wanted it, having nothing to do with anything. But what I told people was, my matron of Honor is my grandmother's younger sister, and has been my Auntie (Godmother) since I was 4 years old. The next was a childhood friend, the next college, the next Maid of Honor, who was an army and grad school fiend. I would never have said, I am closer to this friend than the other, except Auntie. Or that the reason I wanted one furthest is because she always wears Real expensive, rose oil based scents. And uses hairspray. Either of which makes me sneeze and cough, together, wow, stay apart and no hugging. But saying ordered by length of time I knew them was a socially polite answer, though not my original reasoning. When you omit all hurtful possibilities, I like her better than her, and she always smells bad and makes my allergies act up at formal affairs) what is left is a rationale people will not argue with.

View Quoted Comment Thanks so much for sharing this!! Very, very wise. I’m honestly having some trouble with my MOH, negativity and being a bit spiteful. I don’t want that energy right next to me. I will have to continue to think of a very legitimate rationale to use.

I think a wise move. Up until 5 years before, my Auntie would have been happy anywhere. But after a severe hearing loss after kidney problems, withe English her 4th language, she has be one shy when not next to family. Tell people that, and they talk louder, or talk like she has dementia. But how to do something for your own reasons while being diplomatic is something my mom and dad are great at. And mom, pointed out the obvious: The way you want them is also in the order you met them, do you realize that? I hadn't thought about it. But after her suggestion, I would tell people, and they would say, oh, that is nice. I hate when people put beside them the one they like best, it causes jealousy. Or whatever. Why anyone but the bride cares, I haven't a clue!

I would put your MOH next to you. It seems weird not to. I'm having my MOH next to me, then the rest of the girls stand by height shortest to tallest.

I really think MOH should be next to you. I'm sure that your FSIL will just be happy that she's up there with you

You asked your moh to be your moh, so let her stand where the moh traditionally stands. Have his sisters stand next to her, then any other members of your party.

I would just follow your heart. It’s not like it will make a different to anyone at the ceremony and you said it won’t cause any drama. I would share with your MOH that you would like to have your new sisters next to you to honor family but it’s also important she’s up there to honor friendship. I think it’s kind of expected that the MOH is next to the bride, so I would have the conversation with her before anyone else.

I've never seen a wedding where the MOH wasn't standing next to the bride. It is part of the honor that comes with being the MOH.

There’s no rules (just traditions), but if your MOH is doing a reading or signing the marriage license, it makes more sense to have her nearby logistically.

Additionally, if the best man is standing next to the groom, I would notice if the maid of honour wasn’t standing next to the bride. If you’re having the best man and MOH escort each other down the aisle before you walk down, this might cause some confusion if they take different places.

I think that if you are having issues with her, and then you tell her she won’t be standing near you - she may think you’re trying to be spiteful.

Nothing wrong with tradition....keep the order of MOH. Put your SIL next to MOH. But maybe have SIL be second in command of helping you out with certain task during the ceremony and reception without stepping on MOH toes. main thing is to have a great time.