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LoLo.P
VIP May 2016

Order of bridal party?

LoLo.P, on March 19, 2016 at 11:52 AM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 32

How did you ladies determine the order of the bridal party? Was it by height, closeness, what? I know in my head how I want it sort of but I don't want to offend anyone. I don't want 3rd or 4th in line to be like why aren't I second? Does that happen? And I know height would be any easy choice but...

How did you ladies determine the order of the bridal party? Was it by height, closeness, what? I know in my head how I want it sort of but I don't want to offend anyone. I don't want 3rd or 4th in line to be like why aren't I second? Does that happen?

And I know height would be any easy choice but we have one bm/gm that's a couple but she's very short and he's very tall - I'd like them to get to walk together.

How did you guys choose? Any toes stepped on?

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  • Meghan
    Devoted September 2017
    Meghan ·
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    I'm doing my MOH, then my FSIL. I want my FSIL and brother to walk together..the other 3 will go by height!

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  • Alison
    Dedicated April 2016
    Alison ·
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    I honestly do not remember how it was done when I was a BM in the past. I don't think people actually think about these things, do they? Don't they just all know they're your closest friends/family and that's all that matters?

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  • K
    VIP May 2025
    KRAIN ·
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    We are pairing up couples by their personalities and calling it a day!

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  • SarahMarie
    Master May 2016
    SarahMarie ·
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    My sister is next to me and then from that point it is all depending on the color of dress they are wearing. Smiley smile my girls are in different shades of blush/champagne.

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  • Theresa Beale
    Master November 2014
    Theresa Beale ·
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    I had more BMs than DH had groomsmen so I had 3 unescorted bridesmaids and 4 escorted, I alternated them. My friend that introduced DH and I went first (escorted) then the friend I knew the least amount of time went (unescorted). After that it was friend that introduced DH and I's daughter (escorted) then my oldest childhood (non related friend) went (unescorted). Then my aunt (who was like a second mother) was next (escorted). Then my daughter (last unescorted) and finally my cousin (she is mother to the FG so I wanted to have her with us as long as possible just in case the FG got nervous). Then my MOH, FG and ring bearer and finally myself and my dad. (Honestly, I only remember who was first and then closest to me, I had to look at pictures to recall the order).

    I have been in 2 weddings (bridesmaid in both) and both times was last before the MOH but only because I helped with the timing on both (telling people when to start walking and ensuring everyone was lined up and ready to go). I wouldn't have cared where in the line I was as I was just honored to be asked. Also, as only the MOH typically stands with the bride during the service it really isn't that big a deal as to who goes when.

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  • Emily O.
    VIP June 2016
    Emily O. ·
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    We are going by height, with the exception of my MOH (little sister).

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  • Paige
    Devoted June 2017
    Paige ·
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    My party consists of my MOH (sister), my cousin, FSIL, a childhood friend, and 2 college friends. I will have the family members first then friends, haven't thought about if they'll be in any certain order though.

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  • LoLo.P
    VIP May 2016
    LoLo.P ·
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    Thanks all! I know in my head who I think would be good paired up so maybe I'll see what order FH wants his groomsmen. (Although if the previous planning questions are any indication, he's gonna say "I don't care, whatever)

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  • B
    VIP April 2016
    bridetobe ·
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    I'm doing the closest first

    ETA the two that were last, I honestly put them with whoever they would fit with better of the groomsmen

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  • Kaitlyn
    Expert August 2017
    Kaitlyn ·
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    Well only have 6 people in our bridal party. FH's side is all friends and he already knows he wants them in order he's know them (P, D, N).

    I'm having more trouble with my girls. My side will be my sister (love her but we butt heads quite a bit), my best friend from hs (I've felt like we're drifting apart a bit since other bridesmaid moved OOT), and my other best friend that I met through her (OOT).

    I'm having a horrible time deciding between my sister or my hs best friend for my MOH which would also affect the order of the procession.

    It would be easiest to ask my sister to be my MOH because of how I'd like the pairs (sister and P, OOT and D, then HSBF and N who is her boyfriend). If I asked HSBF, idk how I'd match them up.

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  • annakay511
    Master July 2015
    annakay511 ·
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    We did it by a mix of height and closeness, to be honest haha. I have a very tall bridesmaid (5'10") and we wanted/needed to match her up with the tallest GM - and DH is the godfather of that GM's son, so obviously was very close to him. But I had friends I wanted closer to me in order so...it was a mix!

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  • C
    Super October 2016
    Cierra ·
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    I'm also worried about this haha. My two maids of honor are 5'1 and 5'3 and his two best men are well over six foot. That should make for an interesting line up. All the rest of the girls are taller and more similar in height. But I don't know that we will be able to go by height since the first two girls are so short. I'm also 5'10 so it'll be interesting to try to figure out.

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