Hi ladies, so my mom is battling COVID and it's a 50/50 chance she'll make it or not. I always had a mindset of my mom being there when I get married so earlier my fiancé asked if we should just go ahead and get married through the courthouse, I just don't know if I can go get married without her... Thoughts? Opinions?
I get it. My mom doesn’t have COVID, but she's high risk, so she may not be able to make it. My fiancé and I may have to also just get married the two of us (plus our two witnesses) but it’s tough. How much time do you have before you need to decide?
Oh No! I am so sorry, my heart and prayers go out to you. You have a difficult decision either way. I think you just have to do what your heart tells you to. This is one of those times where you have to trust your gut.
I'm praying for you and your mom.
I am so sorry you're going through this. Does your mom have a special piece of jewelry or something that you could bring with you to the courthouse? Having that, combined with the fact that you know she's still alive right now might make you feel like she's almost there with you. You could also go sit outside her hospital for a little while afterward. I know that's not a great solution, but I think it would help me in that situation.
I agree with everyone above. Just wanted to say I am wishing the best for your family - I hope your mom recovers! Go with your gut - that sounds like a beautiful thing to get married sooner rather than later.
Hey darling. I am sorry and I pray that she does recover. I am really keeping you in my thoughts and prayers. If did marry at the courthouse, would you be able to zoom her in? You could do courthouse but do the symbolic ceremony afterwards. I agree with what someone said about having something that is reminiscent of her. My mom bought me a necklace from Tiffany's for my 25th birthday and I will for sure wear that on my day to remember her. I really hope that she does pull through and my heart goes out to you.
I think if it will make you both happy and give you peace of mind then why not. It would be nice if via cell phone she could zoom you two getting married. While hopefully she pulls through but I see your perspective. You can still have the bigger ceremony later as the courthouse would just be the legal portion of it and do a symbolic ceremony for your planned date?
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It doesn't necessarily have to be jewelry. If you like that idea, you could also wear a pair of her shoes or piece of her clothing (or tuck it into your clothes if it doesn't fit well), or bring one of her favorite books, or an item from an activity she likes, with you.