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I get it. My mom doesn’t have COVID, but she's high risk, so she may not be able to make it. My fiancé and I may have to also just get married the two of us (plus our two witnesses) but it’s tough. How much time do you have before you need to decide?

View Quoted Comment I'm not sure she was just now put on the ventilator, been in the hospital for about 3 weeks

Oh No! I am so sorry, my heart and prayers go out to you. You have a difficult decision either way. I think you just have to do what your heart tells you to. This is one of those times where you have to trust your gut.

I'm praying for you and your mom.

I am so sorry you're going through this. Does your mom have a special piece of jewelry or something that you could bring with you to the courthouse? Having that, combined with the fact that you know she's still alive right now might make you feel like she's almost there with you. You could also go sit outside her hospital for a little while afterward. I know that's not a great solution, but I think it would help me in that situation.

Yes, I would go to the courthouse. Take something of hers that's special with you, maybe a piece of jewelry or something. You can still keep your October date. I'll keep your mom in my thoughts.

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View Quoted Comment She doesn't wear jewelry, she bought me quite a few pieces and I was thinking of that but I just idk. It's a tough one

View Quoted Comment My fiancé doesn't want to wait until October because we don't know if we have that long. He wanted to do it right away

I am so sorry Briana, my heart goes out to you and your family. ❤️

It sounds like you and your fiancé are both on board so I'd reach out to the courthouse ASAP and get on their schedule!

I agree with everyone above. Just wanted to say I am wishing the best for your family - I hope your mom recovers! Go with your gut - that sounds like a beautiful thing to get married sooner rather than later.

View Quoted Comment Thank you Lynnie 🧡 I appreciate you guys

View Quoted Comment Thank you! So glad I have this app for some help. It means a lot

First of all, I'm really sorry about your mom and I hope she pulls through. I will say a prayer for her and for you.

Only you can make this decision. If you really want her to be there when you get married, I would say wait. But it's up to you, 100%.

View Quoted Comment Thank you. It's just hard to make a decision when I'm at an all time low 😔

Hey darling. I am sorry and I pray that she does recover. I am really keeping you in my thoughts and prayers. If did marry at the courthouse, would you be able to zoom her in? You could do courthouse but do the symbolic ceremony afterwards. I agree with what someone said about having something that is reminiscent of her. My mom bought me a necklace from Tiffany's for my 25th birthday and I will for sure wear that on my day to remember her. I really hope that she does pull through and my heart goes out to you.

View Quoted Comment I wish that was possible but they have her on the ventilator 😭

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So are you asking if you get married even though she would not be able to be at the courthouse?

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I think if it will make you both happy and give you peace of mind then why not. It would be nice if via cell phone she could zoom you two getting married. While hopefully she pulls through but I see your perspective. You can still have the bigger ceremony later as the courthouse would just be the legal portion of it and do a symbolic ceremony for your planned date?

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It doesn't necessarily have to be jewelry. If you like that idea, you could also wear a pair of her shoes or piece of her clothing (or tuck it into your clothes if it doesn't fit well), or bring one of her favorite books, or an item from an activity she likes, with you.