Opinionated family/friends

I haven't been in a similar situation, but I'll say this.

Stop discussing things with your FMIL.

My FMIL and I have very different tastes. And because of that I've given her very few details about any of the design elements of the wedding.

^ What she said. Stop discussing things with your FMIL. If she offers an unsolicited opinion, simply say thanks and change the subject.

Nope, but that is because I dont really discuss wedding planning with anyone other than my FH.

Some people are like that. Don't talk about the wedding with them. I understand how aggravating it is but usually it isn't worth confronting someone about, especially a FMIL, unless they start pestering you and won't drop things.

Aw. I'm sorry. I agree with the others. Don't discuss it w/ anyone! If they bring it up, be vague

I felt very weird when it came to discussing wedding details with anyone. I kept a lot of things to myself and never got detailed with anymore including my own mother. Not that I was trying to hide things from anyone but it was just something I never felt like discussing, especially since the times I would see my family or future in laws it would be for a celebration of someone (or something else) and I hated taking that attention away. I would just go in with the mindset of avoiding wedding talk all together with her. If she's really prying for info just give her short non detailed answers. And if it doesn't stop with the comments maybe ask if your FH is noticing it and see how he feels about it as well.

I have this same issue with FH's gramma. And I don't discuss the wedding with her (FH does sometimes), she just blatantly offers her unsolicited opinion. The kicker is that she will follow it up with basically saying that if we take her suggestions (which have so far been tacky, mildly inappropriate, and nothing I would ever do) that she would pay for them.

So I can't tell her if she's not paying she doesn't get an opinion bc she offers to pay for us to carry out her opinion!

OP, I would respond to her with "You're right! It is MY wedding." Don't give her an inch!

Someone I know was very opinionated with my idea for a seating chart. She insisted I didn't need one at all and pretty much worded it in a way that didn't invite a reply. So I didn't. And I'm making whatever chart I want. You have to either talk about the details and ignore commentary or just not talk about it at all. Otherwise, it'll be never-ending discussions.

It's tough when you're asked specifics. Develop Teflon shoulders--let everything slide off. Don't let it stick.

If they don't like it, there's the door honey. You aren't forcing them to be there, it is a privilege and if they abuse it, then they loose it. End of story.

This is exactly why I have included no one in my planning. Lol! No one has seen my dress, flowers or decor other then FH. I don't care for their opinions.

Been in that boat before..

In fact, once I think I even said "YEP! SURE IS!" in response.. That shut em up

Sounds just like my FMIL!