Anyone else have anxiety about both the cost (of a consumption) bar and of roudy, tacky, rude, intoxicated guests?!
We have one guest who we didn't think would come, but supposedly is afterall (though my money is on that he and his two kids will RSVP yes and not show). He is humungous - about 6' 4" and almost 300 lbs. He drinks like noone has ever seen before. He sits around and drinks an entire 30 rack of bud light to himself per night almost everyday and then complains that he has no money. We are terrified of the bill knowing he is coming. He also tends to get in his car and drive intoxicated (even though we are providing transportation - the entire hotel is booked and he is not on the block list so he will be missing the transportation we are providing - he is also always late, so will miss it anyway). So anyway, I'm anxious about the bill for him, ah! He rarely ever gets cut off because he sits around and talks (albeit loudly) but isn't up on tables or anything like that. Anyone else feel anxious over a consumption bill?
I'm also anxious because I was so surprised by some of the things that were said by another friend of ours. Usually he is totally "with it" when it comes to etiquette or basic decency - but our wedding has brought out a whole other side of him. First, even though he is coming with an entire very-close knit group of single friends, he assumed he could bring a random plus-one (we don't want strangers at our wedding - partners/spouses/fiance(s)s are all invited and we happen to know everyone's partners decently well). Keep in mind the last plus-one he invited to our home for a dinner we hosted threw up ALL over our home, We are in our late-twenties and WELL past that phase of our lives. So definitely no plus-one for him. THEN he assumed there was an open bar (it's open beer and wine, not open liquor - Also, as a guest, I never assume, as I've been to weddings that were either all cash, or limited host, or open only for cocktail hour, and so-forth) and that he was gonna pound shots (which - I've never been to a wedding that even allowed shots, and also don't pound shots in front of grandma, sheesh). And THEN he said that he intended to drink ALL the alcohol - this is a guy too who, while we've gotten to be very close to, we have only known him for a year out of our 10 year relationship.
What is everyone doing to ensure safety, keep things classy (not trashy), and rein in the bar? So much anxiety!