Only 7 gifts

Maybe people will give you gifts after? I had some people give me gifts after.
Some people think of weddings as they're invited to celebrate with you so it's moreso their presence there that's a gift because it is something special when people gather for this day to celebrate you

View Quoted Comment Yes I actually feel sad so many didn't show, the gifts didn't really matter as much as their presence

Did the other 60 people rsvp yes and then not show? Or did you just have 90 people rsvp? That’s an extreme no show rate if they all RSVPd. It’s also insane that only 9 people showed up with a gift. It only costs $3 to buy a card and write a nice note. Sorry this was your experience with your guests.

Did those people RSVP no or did they RSVP yes and not show up? Unfortunately not everyone can attend every event. Having a holiday weekend wedding can also negatively impact your guest count.

It's common for about of 1/3 of your invitees to not attend.. I am curious as well, did 60 RSVP yes and not show?

My family is from Mexico they don't do rsvps, I made my wedding at a border town in Mexico so both our families could go. That affected my husband's count too since a few of his family refused to cross, the town is less than 15 mins away

That is pretty surprising. I know guests don't all give gifts, but that is a lot. Was it only 7 people that gave gifts or was it 7 households? Did they give a card or cash? We invited 225, our final guest count is 125. So we have 100 people not going, which we anticipated.

You said a few of your husband's family refused to cross the border into Mexico. Do you know whether they have legal status in the US? What kind of visa? If they do not have legal status, or even if they have status that enables them to stay in the US but not to return if they leave the US, crossing the border into Mexico could mean that they could never come back. I could understand their not thinking that a reasonable trade-off to show up for your wedding.

View Quoted Comment No they don't, they don't go because they hear stories that the border town is not safe.

Honestly, this would hurt my feelings too! It's okay to feel hurt, but try not to dwell on it. Remember, you and the love of your life are married now! Congratulations on your recent wedding

Wow that's surprising. I'm so sorry. I'd be hurt too.
I hope your day was magical regardless of the attendance number!