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Only 2 Bridesmaids

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Rebecca, on May 1, 2019 at 6:07 PM

I have an good idea of how I want everything to go for my wedding. Although one thing keeps coming to my mind and bothering me. I have 2 best friends who I asked to be my bridesmaids. I'm so happy to enjoy this big day with them, but I'm overly aware that most weddings have lots of bridesmaids. I feel sorta embarrassed I only have 2. I've thought about asking 2 of my cousins and and old friend to be bridesmaids. But I haven't even seen that friend in a couple years, and I hardly know her. My cousins were a huge part in my life in grade school, since then our family split. The last time I was them was a year and half ago for one of the girls graduations. We were a little awkward, but enjoyed each others company. I think I'm more afraid of being judged either asking the girls, or looking back at pictures. I'm an extrovert, but in school and work I don't really talk to people. Part of me wants to try to make new friends just so I have another lady or 2 in the bridal party. Which is just a horrid thought, I'm happy to have new friends but I've been so content with my social life I never changed anything.

Sorry for the rant if you made it this far, what do you think I should do?

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Rebecca · on May 1, 2019 at 6:58 PM
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Thank you that means a lot!
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Anna · on May 1, 2019 at 7:04 PM
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Nothing to be embarrassed about! I have two so far that I’m asking and I might ask 1 who is newer friend. Only ask people who you care about and I’m sure they will feel even more special being the two that you’ve asked! I know I would.
You don’t have to have a huge bridal party of 11 girls. Plus think about how many more things you can do when there are with just three people. For example bachelorette will be less stressful! Picking gifts will be easier and knowing you have someone trustworthy to call when you need support
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thisismrsb · on May 1, 2019 at 7:24 PM
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Don't stress it. You can have as many or as few as you want. In my wedding, I have 1 matron of honor, 9 bridesmaids and 1 bridesman. Meanwhile, my best friend since childhood only has 2: me and her other best friend.
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Casey · on May 1, 2019 at 7:30 PM
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I was going to have no bridal party but in the end decided I'd ask my sister to be MOH so we have a wedding party of 1 😂 don't feel pressured to do more!
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Katie · on May 1, 2019 at 7:35 PM
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I haven't seen my cousin since she moved to Alaska 8 years ago, but my uncle is flying her down for the wedding and she'll be my bridesmaid! A year and a half isn't long, if you want your cousins ask your cousins!!

A lot of people who have 7 and 8 brides maids have a mix of close friends, sisters, cousins, etc as well as their FH's sisters and other female family members. Don't feel bad!! I'm keeping mine to 3 because it's smaller and more simple.
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Lizbeth · on May 1, 2019 at 7:38 PM
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I love small. I only have 4. 2 more than I originally wanted
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Rebecca · on May 1, 2019 at 7:45 PM
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Thank you everyone so much! I'm now proud to have 2 bridesmaids and not worry about anything more than who means the most to me.

Also sorry for the title autocorrect.
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Jessica · on May 1, 2019 at 8:20 PM
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I always giggle when I see this going around 😂 (no offense to all the ladies with big bridal tribes) just a funny
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Pattie · on May 1, 2019 at 8:24 PM
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I only have two! It’s okay to have less! Don’t just add people because you feel obligated for photos. Not worth the stress or the money you have to put into it.
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· on May 1, 2019 at 8:35 PM
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We have 4 each including our Maid of Honor and Best Man. My sister had 7 on each side and it was completely crazy! Each bridesmaid lived in a different stage! She got married 10 years ago and still talks about how she felt guilty, and so she asked 2 or 3 that she probably wouldn’t have if she could do it again. Completely your preference and what you’re comfortable with! Don’t feel bad if you only have two, that’s a great number!! 😊
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Trista · on May 1, 2019 at 8:38 PM
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Last summer my best friend only had ne as MOH and one bridesmaid. It didn't seem odd at all. I originally wanted 3, but FH wanted 5, so 5 it is. I am wishing now it had stayed at 3. Much cheaper and more manageable.
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Mandi · on May 1, 2019 at 8:40 PM
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I had one friend who was just overwhelmed by the number she could have that she had 2.
I considered having 5, but deciding that was overwhelming and went with 4.
Your numbers are your choice and nobody is really going to care.
Besides, I'd rather have people close to me in my photos in 20 years, than people I never talk to anymore.
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Julie · on May 1, 2019 at 8:58 PM
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If it makes you feel any better, I'm only having 1!
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Sarah · on May 1, 2019 at 9:11 PM
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I'm going to have just one, although I could do three. Whatever you do, don't reach to have more people in your bridal party for appearances. You'll look back some day and likely regret it.
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2d Bride · on May 1, 2019 at 10:51 PM
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In each of my weddings, we've had only two attendants total for the two of us. You're much better off having only those you are really close to than trying to boost the numbers by inviting random people.
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Morgan · on May 1, 2019 at 11:08 PM
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I only have 2 bridesmaids too. You do whatever makes you feel more comfortable. It’s your wedding day so you get to do what you want!
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Monica · on May 1, 2019 at 11:11 PM
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I feel the exact same way!! I think I felt like I would be missing out on the fun "bride tribe" moments that everyone else seems to have with the bride's 8 best friends all giggling over mimosas and in robes. What helped me is to take some time out and really think about what was more important to me: the way pictures would look and what people might think of me or to have the people that matter the most to me up there, even if there were only two. (Also all the bridal party horror stories on here... No thank you.) On a financial note, less bouquets, hair/makeup and gifts to pay for 🤷‍♀️. Good luck!
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Megan · on May 1, 2019 at 11:15 PM
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I think two is perfectly fine. I am only having one bridemaid/moh- my best friend, I'm in the same boat no sisters, cousins ( large age difference and 4 of them on one side and 2 closer in my age on the other side but not super close with them), 2 future sister in laws ( my fh sister in laws) that I'm not super close with either , I just don't see any of these other ladies up there with me.
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VIP September 2019
· on May 2, 2019 at 12:35 AM
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I think you should stick with your 2 girls. No one is judging. It is about quality not quantity
I have only 3. My life long best friend and my two fsil
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Pirate & 60s Bride · on May 2, 2019 at 1:01 AM
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TWO close friends as bridesmaids sounds fabulous! We didn’t have a wedding party so I had my mom & sister get ready with me.
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